It didn’t take me long to replace the Producer. Actually, there was another man waiting in the wings. He had signed up for the party I was originally supposed to attend with the Producer and his girlfriend, and contacted me on the swinger site. I had agreed to meet him over lunch a couple of days before the party, originally thinking he might be someone who could join in and swap with us all.
There is kind of an interesting back story with this particular man, though I was oblivious to most of it. When he emailed me from his swinger profile, I didn’t realize right away that he was the same man I had spoken with several months ago, while I was still seeing the Professor. He had changed his location and profile pics due to some of the higher ups in his profession seeing he was on there. None of the pictures were showing his face.
However, when I went to text him at the number he gave me, his name popped up in my phone. Okay, now I remembered him. I asked about the changes and he explained. He at first avoided the question of whether or not he had been friends with the Professor.
The reason I had turned this man down the first time we were talking back and forth was because it was clear to me that the Professor was feeling jealous and didn’t want me speaking with him. He had gotten upset with me for silly things like the fact that I had talked with this man over the phone, rather than simply texted. I was like, well, he called me! LOL I usually prefer to text, due to having children in the house but I do answer my phone if I can, just try to avoid it as much as possible.
Anyhow, I hadn’t been particularly into him, though he did have a lot of positive references and seemed like a good guy. I had been turned off a little because he seemed overeager and then the Professor had told me he had a gold tooth. Yeah, I wasn’t feeling the gold tooth and I was super into the Prof at the time anyhow and didn’t want to hurt him by getting involved with someone he knew.
Little did I know, there was all kinds of competition brewing beneath the surface between the two of them. I knew they had shared a married woman at a party before and that they both did some part time work as referees. Over my lunch date I learned much more.
According to the Referee, as I will call him (though he has another full time job, it’s not very exciting, he’s a supervisor at some sort of factory), not only was HE trying to talk to me at the time, but the Prof had gotten upset and in return tried really hard to get with HIS “single” girlfriend. He said that didn’t work out though because she had decided she was more into women and run off on him for another girl, not showing any interest in the Prof either.
Okay, but it doesn’t stop there. The Referee was seeing another woman who the Professor was also fucking. Hold up, wait, he was fucking her while he was seeing me? Yep, and never told me and even told this girl not to say anything!! I’ve met her, after all. In fact, she was the woman who came up and told me she’d met him at the Christmas party, back in my blog story, When being open isn’t enough.
Ahhhh…… wow, the truth starts to come out. The Referee says that at that particular party he had ASKED her to come up and introduce herself to me, and to report back to him. He wanted to know if I was as hot as I looked in my pictures. She said I was, but that the Professor wasn’t allowing me to play with anyone. Too funny, because she and the Jamaican had asked us to come up to their room and the Prof definitely wasn’t having it.
Oh, but this isn’t all. Not only were they both fucking this same woman, but the Referee also used to see another woman that the Prof was sleeping with right before he met me, a married woman that he had told me a little bit about but I thought nothing of it since he made it seem like they had just been casual fwb. Not so much. The Referee said he’d spent time with her actually CRYING and really upset because the Prof had “left her” for a “younger, hotter, woman” and now would no longer see her anymore. Yeah, that would be me.
I had no idea. I feel awful that someone felt that way about the relationship between the Prof and I, but no one had told ME what was going on. I had been contacted by her profile right before that party at the hotel asking if we wanted to have a threesome with the Prof and he had said it was probably just her husband goofing off. He never gave any indication that she was into him as more than just sex.
Gah, this whole thing is doing nothing for my trust level for men in general. You can’t even have an OPEN relationship, it seems, without somebody lying or running off with the next girl and abandoning the person that was there before. I met this woman at a party this weekend and I could totally see the hurt in her eyes and it made me feel awful. She’s very pretty for her age (which is like 60) and in great shape (plus has had plastic surgery) and doesn’t need to feel that way about herself.
Add that I was there with the Referee, and he also didn’t want to get with her because of me, and it made me want to crawl through a hole. She even went and changed her costume into one more similar to mine, after she saw what I was wearing. We had taken some pics together with the Referee and then she came back to take more. He said he knew she was wanting to get with him again but he wasn’t really interested.
Sigh…. Well let’s get back to the fun part, shall we? The Referee and I had a great little meeting over lunch. He drove up in his very nice white Cadillac with some seriously cool rims and a little TV on the dashboard. We met at the Marriot hotel before he took me to lunch at Applebees. He was nice looking, despite the gold tooth and really in a lot of ways reminds me of the Producer. Before we went in to eat we sat in his car, watching videos on the dashboard and drinking some Cayman Jack margaritas in a bottle. I’m loving those things, he even gave me one to take home, lol.
Of course we had all kinds of interesting things to talk about. He said he’s been feeling me for a really long time and really wanted to meet me after all that ordeal with the Prof. He’d kind of backed out of swinging for a while with the discovery of his profile and gotten into a monogamous relationship for about 6 months.
I had to explain to him the situation with the Producer and his girlfriend and why they were no longer coming to the party and he said that was crazy. He said I was way too beautiful to accept second best from anyone and not to ever let someone do me like that. He thought the woman demanding to come along each time we had sex was way out of line and said it sounds like the Producer is just getting off on the ego trip of being her first “black guy”. He totally agreed with the points I had laid out about the red flags I saw as potential issues, but of course the Producer will have to figure that all out for himself, after he comes down off the high of NRE. Ah well.
We ate and headed back to the hotel, where he popped in a porn video for me to watch while he was checking in. I was like isn’t that kind of distracting, porn on your dashboard while you are driving and he said it’s not too bad but it does get him horny on long drives. LOL He claimed he got the video from the guy who put the tv in for free and it contained a lot of double penetration/anal.
Then we went up to the hotel room, which was an extra nice one with a balcony and had a blast. He was good in bed, went down on me and has a similar sexual style to the Producer. He also claims he can’t cum with a condom on and it does nothing for him to wear one so we went without. He called himself “Daddy” in the bedroom so I know he’s another one that likes that. 😉 During sex he was telling me I could have anything I wanted from him.
He really seems to like me and asked me what I was looking for relationship wise. According to him he is more of a monogamy type of guy really and tends to get into monogamous relationships with the wife of a couple. He was with the same woman, the mother of his children who are now in college, for 23 years before getting into the Lifestyle. I didn’t really know what to say and just said I am playing it by ear, not wanting to rush into anything. He thought that was smart and not crazy, like getting into something two weeks in, like the Producer.
In fact, he liked me so much that he wanted to come down again two days later (it’s like an hour and a half or so drive). He said he’d come even if he could just get a kiss. We decided though, instead, to go to the party together.
We had fun. I wore my French maid costume. It looks like this from the front.
And here is a picture of me and the Referee from the back 😉
We had gone to the hotel next door to the party, even though we weren’t staying there, for me to change into my costume, and couldn’t find a restroom in the lobby so I ducked into a laundry room. There was a peephole in the door and I was teasing him that he could watch. He came in at the end to help me try and fasten some straps and there was a knock on the door. It was some random guys at the hotel trying to do their laundry and they thought we were fucking. We laughed it off and he asked the guy to take a picture. 😉
Other than meeting the woman who had cried over me and the Professor there wasn’t a lot exciting about the party itself. There was a 70 something woman in a wheelchair who grabbed the Referee’s dick and told him “I’m going to get some of that!!” and a big fat lady who stripped naked and was telling him he just didn’t want her because she was old.
When we first walked in, two women grabbed me and tried to pull me off. I could tell the Referee was freaking out because he had told me that every time he takes a single woman to a party she leaves him for another woman and he gets left out in the cold. I’d reassured him I wasn’t like that, lol, so I was laughing but holding back from actually running off with them. He said one party she just took off into the bathroom with a married woman and then she was gone and he never saw her again.
We hung out with a couple of other couples and danced and took some jello shots and drank a little but eventually went back to the Marriot by ourselves. He gets some sort of special deal there, which is cool. According to him, he really didn’t feel like sharing me and especially so soon after just meeting and enjoys his one on one. We had fantastic sex, it was even better than the first time and he passed out before I left to go home.
I feel bad because he lost a $200 gold chain in the hotel the first time we had sex and they overcharged him instead of giving him the rate he wanted the second time but he still seems interested. I guess we will see how this goes.
The next day I drove out to see my fuck buddy again. He helped fill up my gas tank to get home and he gave me one of his porn dvd’s. It’s called “Chocolate Cherry Ho’s”….lmao. We had been watching one together after our first round of sex and he had a big collection so said I could take one home. I guess I will have to watch that. 😉 He was showing me some guy called “Wesley Pipes”, lol. I’m not a big porn connoisseur, so not too familiar with most of it. I was telling him he was big enough to be up there on the porn screen too and he was like “really?” So modest. 😉
We had fantastic sex and I am so glad he’s still here in my life. He’s really a sweetheart and great looking with a perfect body. I can’t really say why we don’t fit together. We are pretty different though. He’s from the deep south and cracks me up because he will say things like he doesn’t believe swimming is natural for human beings and we shouldn’t be out there in the ocean if we can’t breathe underwater. He’s also more naturally quiet and to himself. He tells me a lot of crazy stories about the things people were doing sexually when he was in the military though.
Anyhow, the Producer may have tossed me off to the side but I’m keeping him blocked and going on my merry way. Obviously it didn’t stop me from getting mine this past week, lol, despite being upset.