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Good things come in 3’s….

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Yay!! My 3rd nomination for the Very Inspiring Blog Award. This one should be fun! Thank you so much to Speaking Out on Sex for the nomination. I love reading his blog and you should head over there too!

With the acceptance of this award I agree to state 7 facts about myself and to list 15 bloggers that you will find interesting, pinging back to a post of theirs, so they know I’m over here talking about them and that they have recieved the award. 😉 Of course I also display the beautiful award logo on my blog and link back to the awesome person that gave the award to ME. Thank you again Speaking Out On Sex!!

Okay, enough said, let’s get down to the best parts. 🙂 A little history trivia about me.

1. I was born at home to very hippy parents living in some sort of commune on the beach back in the mid 70’s. My parents were never married and from what I understand were basically just roommates/fuck buddies of some sort. My mom was 19 and planned to get an abortion, but my dad convinced her not to. They had no money but grew a garden with the other residents and lived off raw, vegan foods, with a little help from the Hare Krishna’s, who gave out free meals.

2. My grandparents on my father’s side were quite rich and somewhat famous. They lived in a mansion in Southern California. My dad, however, did not get along with them and completely rebelled, forfeiting his inheritance by growing his hair long, burning his draft card and throwing away his prestigious college education and baseball scholarship, in favor of becoming a beach bum. He didn’t believe in materialism, felt the public schools were for raising brainwashed sheep, detested Christianity and said marriage was just a piece of paper (though he did eventually get married he said he only signed the piece of paper because of reasons that my stepmom wanted, lol).

3. My grandmother on my mother’s side was a nudist. She spent her 50th birthday week at a nudist camp celebrating. She also used to practice white witchcraft and read the Tarot. When I was married my ex husband and I accidentally came across nude photos of her….with two men. They weren’t actually having sex in the pictures, but well, I can imagine what might have been going on, ha!

4. My mom is a drug addict and pretty hardcore. She’s tried to commit suicide twice and the first time the doctors said she was going to die but she didn’t. I’ve got a lot of resentment and anger towards her for this and some of her behavior in general. She was fired from a succession of nursing jobs for stealing hydrocodone and morphine from her patients and has been arrested and thrown in jail a few times for stealing. She’s quite the kleptomaniac. Somehow though, she always gets out of things. She doesn’t even bother to hire a lawyer and stands up in court and defends herself and the judge listens.

5. I was pretty badly physically, emotionally and mentally abused as a child, mostly by my stepfathers but I can’t discount my mother’s part in it all. Social services was called in when I was 7 due to my coming to school completely covered in bruises from being beaten so badly with a belt that I think I passed out. Like there wasn’t an inch on my body from the waist down (on the backside) that wasn’t bruised or welted. I had been feeling sick and couldn’t finish my dinner so I had wrapped some green beans and tomatoes in a napkin and thrown them in the trash and my stepfather found them. Anyhow that incident brought social workers into my home to try and help him learn how to discipline better but it didn’t really work. Even as bad as that was, the next stepfather was emotionally worse.

6. On a lighter note, we had a dog when I was little that rang the doorbell when he wanted to be let in the house. He was a German Shepherd that had been trained by my uncle.

7. I was homeschooled for a year of high school while living with my father and stepmother and didn’t follow any kind of curriculum but read a lot of great books and spent a lot of time at the beach. I think I learned more that year than all of my years of public schooling combined. I devoured book after book that I chose for myself as well as those my father and stepmother recommended. I read such works as The Brethren, Autobiography of a Yogi, The Autobiography of Malcom X, Hawaii by James Michener, as well as classics like Anna Karenina, several books by Charles Dickens, Hemingway, and Shakespeare, Moby Dick, 1984, Farenheit 451, Animal Farm, and I could go on all day. When I went back to public school the following year it was disappointing how painstaking my classic literature class really was and how they took the fun out of reading really good books by dissecting them to pieces.

Anyhow, now for my list of bloggers you will like!

1. Sex and the Shameless
2. An Open Book
3. Emarie24
4. Polysingleish
5. Two Ghosts
6. The Sexy Ferkel
7. Thoughts in My Mind
8. The Trials and Tribulations of Miss Poly
9. Slave Redefined
10. Postmodern Curious Man
11. The Southern MILF
12. Finding Mr. Wrong…. I Mean Mr. Right
13. Malibu Mom
14. Tell Me A Fable
15. Clean Cut, All American

Till later! Hope you all have a wonderful weekend!! 🙂

Inspired by me?? I am so honored!! :D

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Your very own Lovergirl has been awarded the Very Inspiring Blogger Award! Thank you so much to the lovely Kay of the DAFT Diaries! Her blog is an inspiration to ME so I am especially honored!! If you haven’t gone over there to take a peek, please do!

The rules of this award are pretty similar to the others:

1.) Display the award logo on your blog.
2.) Link back to the person who nominated you.
3.) State 7 things about yourself.
4.) Nominate 15 bloggers for this award.
5.) Notify those bloggers of the nomination by linking to one of their specific posts so that they get notified by ping back.

So let’s get to the exciting stuff!! 😉

7 MORE intriguing facts about your favorite Lovergirl:

1. One of my most embarrassing moments ever was being caught masturbating by not one, not two, but THREE guys peeking in the window of my bedroom back in high school. They were three sort of nerdy neighborhood boys around my age who happened to come peer in between the slats of my blinds while I was fingering away. Of course, they had to spread the news far and wide and I denied, denied, denied!! Who me? I would never do such a naughty thing!! I’m sure everyone believed that one! NOT!! Total humiliation!

Nowadays kids seem a lot more likely to fess up about the fact that they masturbate, at least my kid does. I found an opened sample of baby shampoo in the boys’ room awhile back and the first thing out of my 13 year old’s mouth was “I WASN’T using that to jack off!!” Err….TMI son, TMI!!! LOL That never would have even OCCURRED to me if you’d kept your mouth shut!! Haha

2. I am in love with the SongPop game on Facebook. If I could design a perfect game that’s exactly what it would be like! I’m excelling in the Classic Rap, Classic RnB, Mowtown, and 80’s and 90’s music categories as well as doing pretty well with Duets, Funk and Soul. You know you wanna play me!! Nevermind that half the time when I’m playing I have LOUD kids in the background or people talking to me and distractions going on, I’m still killing it!! 😉

3. I’ve never been to a Karaoke bar. Never!! They were just starting to become popular back in the late 90’s while I was busy getting married to a man that was deeply involved in the church and ministry and totally against drinking or going to bars. There was no alcohol at my wedding (lame!!) He wouldn’t even go to movie theatres. We were that hardcore into conservative Christianity and we lived out in the middle of nowhere surrounded by Amish people. Someone needs to take me to one and soon!! 😀

4. When I lived near a secluded beach in Hawaii I used to sometimes hike up among the sand and rocks, strip off all my clothes and sunbathe or swim naked, fantasizing that some random hot guy would be watching and come along and fuck me. It never happened though! Where the hell are all the sexy strangers when you need them? 😉

5. I never went to my high school prom. I was having sex with a few different people but no one asked me. 😦 I guess they didn’t think of me as the type to take home to Mama. Plus, I didn’t have money for a dress. So instead I went to a three day music festival featuring local bands with a group of friends, managed to get in for free and had a crazy time. I’ll bet that was way more fun than a formal dance anyhow….

6. I taught Sunday School for years and Children’s Church and wrote and performed puppet shows and taught preschool and was a day camp counselor. My ex was in ministry and I homeschooled our kids. I’m like the queen of thrift and even used to make my own baby wipes and cleaning supplies and bread and tortillas and all sorts of stuff to save money. I’d bet you’d never guess I’d be the type to lead a secret life. Shhhhh……

Thing is that during that time, at least for the first 11 years of my marriage and the couple of years of dating my ex- husband before that, I WASN’T living a double life. I was faithful and beyond reproach, even though he wasn’t showing much interest in sex with me and even though I felt rejected and alone. I’m living proof that a ho CAN actually turn into a housewife….at least for awhile! I finally cheated ON my 11th Anniversary, a day that my ex -husband had refused sex with me anyway.

7. I ran away from home on my 14th Birthday, from my psychotic, crack smoking stepfather who had threatened to kill me with a gun. He was angry that I had been trying to tell people he was molesting my 6 year old sister. Someone had called the police after seeing him grab me and shove me onto the stairs and slap me across the face so I told them of his threat and he convinced them I was full of shit. They handed me a business card and told me he wasn’t allowed to make threats and to call if I had any more issues. So he unplugged all the phones in the house and sat in between the front and back door on the lower level of the house to prevent me from escaping.

I managed to climb out a second story bathroom window, hanging down and dropping from it to the ground below and made a run for my life. The cops never caught up with me though one time my stepfather came past a friend’s house where we were hiding alone and we stayed in a closet while he banged on the door and made threats, hoping he couldn’t see we were actually there. Eventually I turned myself in by going to school and was sent away to live with my father for a year and later with other relatives and my grandma but I never went back home to live with my mother. That’s just the tip of the iceberg. I could fill a book with true tales from my childhood that would make a great Lifetime movie.

And NOW, for the Grand Finale!! 15 fascinating bloggers that you absolutely MUST check out!! I noticed that some of my favorites are also on the list of the lovely woman who nominated me so I am trying to avoid repeats! There are just so many great blogs out there! Please take a look at these ones!!

1. Confessions of a Preacher’s Daughter
2. Her Secret Library
3. Jack of all Triads
4. Epicurus and Lilith
5. SeattlePolyGuy
6. SnarkySnatch
7. State of Grace
8. The Hunt for Mr. Right Now
9. Speaking out on Sex
10. Smooth Re-entry
11. Pyx
12. Growing Up Little
13. The Poly Orange
14. Nice Girls Like Sex Too
15. Pilot Precise

P.S. I actually recieved the Very Inspiring Blogger Award from TWO different people!! The second one being Newly Single Guy, who I was going to put on my list here but saw he had already been nominated. Thank you, thank you, thank you!! 😀 So here’s a shout out to him! Love his blog and reading his thoughts!