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I Feel Glamorous!! :D


This is beyond awesome!!  I’ve discovered that I was listed as a top 100 sex blogger, on a Glamour magazine website, written in Portuguese. I’m number 75, in their opinion, of the top sex blogs in the world!!  I love it!!

WOW!!!  What an honor!!  It’s THAT Glamour magazine, the one you see on the shelf in your local grocery store!  I can’t believe it!!  Talk about glamorous!! 😀

Here is the entire article, translated into English, and here is the link to the actual page:

Original article HERE (if you want to click on the links, you’ll have to head over to the original, they get lost in translation 😉 )

Learn which are the top 100 blogs in the world of sex

Prepared to raise the temperature even more? Check out the following list with major (and most influential) fri bloggers in the world and enjoy your smokin ‘hot tips!

sex bloger (Foto: Divulgação) If you are the type who loves to read and share news with friends will love the list aseguir (Reuters)

They say sex moves the world. And there are people who know very well. With their blogs, add thousands of regulars and willing to learn much more about relationships and eroticism followers. No taboos or embarrassment, the fri bloggers talk about everything you want and need to know. The following are the top 100 in the world for you to start reading now!

1 Karley Sciortino’s. Slutever.com : the blog has been around since 2007 and Karley is one of the most provocative and shameless middle, so also has the largest number of followers. To get the most soft content, Karley usually writes with humor and even some sarcasm. Asked about the blog defines itself: “It is an investigation into the sexual behavior of people.”

. 2 Venus O’Hara: Irish living in Spain remains anonymous (does not reveal the true name and signs with the name of the blog itself, but her face shows no problems). Author of English for Perverts, she likes to tell everything, especially their personal experiences. His favorite subjects? Female masturbation, fetishism and the LGBT community. “Writing about sex is to devote himself to pleasure, a theme that connects us all,” she says.

3 Pilgren of Laila. sexacademybarcelona.com : Director of the first academy dedicated to sexuality of the world, this theme guru insists reinforce important themes: “We insist much to teach about preventing sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy, but we want people to learn to enjoy sexuality, “says Laila.

4 of Silvia Carpallo. blogs.elpais.com : “Writing about sex is how to practice it:. you have to want the reader to pass a good time with you In the blog idea is to leave a message so that each reflect on what just read, “says the blogger. The only rule in this cyberspace is not talking about his personal experience and avoid sensationalism.

. 5 Lady Pandorah the Pandorah Lady’s Sanctuary : arguing it can not address all the issues that you want in normal society because it runs the risk of being judged as a bad person, the blogger has a refuge there. “I use this space to air my thoughts on the game that is perverse sex, about relationships and my own personal experiences and opinions,” he says.

sex blogger (Foto: Divulgação) Has only blog about erotic, others produtinhos on personal reflections and more! (Reuters)

. 6 EA of the Easily Aroused : the English that defines itself as a cool person who loves sex, loves to write seductive and provocative way to arouse in his readers an unconditional willingness to engage in sexual relations with a very high libido. Worth the click.

. 7 Anna Sansom’s The Lady Garden Project : a more mature blogger is supertransparente with your readers. “I write my own erotic stories. First I did it to seduce potential lovers, is now shared with my virtual followers and inspire them,” she describes.

8 Violet Blu’s. Tiny Nibbles : bold and intense, the author of this blog has no compunction in time to make their publications. Erotic and sensual photos run through all your posts. Author of many books on the subject, she is recognized for her work in the area and all speaking with propriety.

. 9 Dick and Jane from Dick-n-Jane : Fully geared for couples, this blog is very informal and relaxed. Maintained by a man and a woman who love to share their personal experiences, but prefer to remain anonymous, the space is for you to have a stable relationship.

10. The Kara Kara Sutra Reviews : If you want to know all about sex toys, this is the right place. Here the main issue is this and details are calientes, but worth reading before venturing on their next purchase.

11. Lauralyn the Big Ugly Pix
12. Remittance Girl from Remittance Girl
13. The Dorothy Black Spot The Dot
14. Monocle, Redbud, and Ximena’s The Erotic Writer
15. The Penny Penny for Your (Dirty) Thoughts
16. Lauren Queerie Bradshaw
17. MsQuote of A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind
18. Littlesubmissions the Little Submissions
19. Blacksilk of Being Blacksilk
20. The Conina Exploring Surrender
21. The GSC Submissive Guy Comics
22. The Cross Shelby Shelby Cross, Writer
23. Jayne Diary Incarnate
24. The John D. John Stories
25. The Z Pervertically Virtuous
26. The LS & M Love, Marriage & Fri
27. Hyacinth Jones A Dissolute Life Means …
28. Santha Smith Secretly Sensuous
29. Ruby Ryder’s Pegging Paradise
30. Cliff’s The Pervocracy
31. The Marie Rebelle Rebel’s Notes
32. The Rose Renee Renee Rose Romance
33. The Cheeky Lady Smut for Smarties
34. Cheeky Minx’s Love Hate Fri Cake
35. Seamus the Wistful The Sinner
36. Athol Kay’s Married Man Fri Life
37. Dangerous Lilly This Could Be Dangerous
38. The Lucas Brooks Top To Bottom
39. Epiphora from Hey Epiphora
40. The Charlie Glickman Charlie Glickman
41. The Axe Unspeakable Axe
42. Ferns from Domme Chronicles
43. The Girl on the Net Girl on the Net
44. The Joan Price Naked at Our Age
45. The cammies cammies on the Floor
46. ​​Venice and Ryan Fuck Blogging
47. Kaya’s Under His Hand
48. The Dassi Desi Desi Dassi
49. Judges of The Reluctant Bitch
50. The Cara Cara Sutra

Sex blogger (Foto: Divulgação) In these moments arise so many doubts … how about taking them on these blogs? (Reuters)

51. Caitlin M. the Sexational!
52. The Maggie Mayhem Maggie Miss Mahem
53. The Marian Creative Noodling
54. BD Swain Leaning How To Tell You
55. The Thumper Denying Thumber
56. Eme Viegas and Jaqueline Barbosa’s Shameless Couple
57. Panty Parade of Go Off The Panties
58. The Jade Melisande Kink and Poly
59. The Will Lusty Limerickets
60. The Mollena The Perverted Negress
61. The Pyx Syncopation
62. Quinn Sadie Sadie Quinn
63. The Chris McC Stranded in Toronto
64. Kayla Lords of Sexual Being
65. Vulgarvag the Vuldar Vag
66. The Maggie The Honest Courtesan
67. Shon Richards Erotiterrorist
68. The Nilla Vanillamom’s Blog
69. Wordwytch the Adventures of a Word Wytch

70. Anastassia’s Diary of an Owned Slave
71. Domme’s Dumb Dumb Domme
72. Blanc Marina Sexônico
73. Jill McDevitt’s A Day in the Life of a Sexologist
74. Fatal Linger You Like A Haunting Refrain
75. Lifeofalovergirl the Life of a Lover Girl
76. The Michael Malflic
77. Mrs. Fever of Temperature’s Rising
78. Tori ‘s Pleasure Pain
79. Rougedmount the rougedmount
80. Heather and Nikki’s Vagina Antics
81. Perverse Cowgirl Hiding in Plain Sight
82. Potter Property of the Property of Potter
83. Anakin and padme Journey to the Darkside
84. Brownstone John ‘s Place Southern Sir
85. Johnstun Joe’s Sexy Little Ideas
86. Hedone’s The Pleasure Principle
87. Sangsara of Sexuality Sanctuary
88. The Gemma Erotic Adventures
89. The TJ TJ’s Take
90. The Scarlett Dubois A True Unfolding
91. The Ravenlust Adriana Of Fri and Love
92. The Ali Ali’s Addiction
93. The Jill Naked All the Time
94. Emma’s Dirty Little Whispers
95. The paltego Femdom Resource
96. The Catherine Toyooka Fri Spoken Here
97. Bilikesscifi of The Tale of Bi and Bi
98. The Sarah Marvelous Darling
99. Mysticlez the Mystic’s Mind Fuck
100. Mary and John’s Put the Scoop

I feel the love surrounding me….


Ooooooh baby, Between My Sheets has announced the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2013 and guess who is one of them??!! Yours truly is number 74!!  I’m once again on cloud 9 that my blog is considered to be among one of the best!!  Thank you Rori! 😀  I’m so glad you enjoy what you have read here! I’m really liking what I see over there at Between My Sheets as well. 😉

Also, a special thank you to Z over at Pervertically Virtuous for nominating me!  If you STILL haven’t checked out her blog after my repeated recommendations, you need to!  You’ll sit there, just riveted, reading about her experiences. 

I’m looking over this list and seeing some blogs I know and love among ones that I have never checked out but that sound really intriguing.  I can’t wait to run over and read some of them.  I’ll post the list here in case any of you are interested in doing the same.  🙂

And now, without further ado, your 2013 Top Sex Bloggers list:

1. Lady Pandorah from Lady Pandorah’s Sanctuary @ladypandorah
2. Jerome from Let’s Talk About Sex @NotJeromeStuart
3. EA from Easily Aroused @EasilyAroused
4. Anna Sansom from The Lady Garden Project @ladygarden69
5. Violet Blue from Tiny Nibbles @violetblue
6. Dick and Jane from Dick-n-Jane  
7. Kara from Kara Sutra Reviews @Kara_Sutra
8. Lauralyn from Big Ugly Pix  
9. Remittance Girl from Remittance Girl @remittancegirl
10. Dorothy Black from The Dot Spot @dorothyblack
11. Monocle, Redbud, and Ximena from The Erotic Writer @_Monocle_ and @_Ximena_Writes_
12. Penny from Penny for Your (Dirty) Thoughts @pennysblog
13. Lauren from Queerie Bradshaw @QueerieBradshaw
14. MsQuote from A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind @GoodDirtyWoman
15. littlesubmissions from Little Submissions  
16. Blacksilk from Being Blacksilk @BlacksilkBlog
17. Conina from Exploring Surrender  
18. SGC from Submissive Guy Comics @SGCposts
19. Shelby Cross from Shelby Cross, Writer @Shelby_Cross
20. N. Likes from My Dissolute Life @nlikes
21. Jayne from Diary Incarnate  
22. John from John D. Stories @johndstories
23. Z from Pervertically Virtuous @VirtuousPervert
24. LS&M from Love, Sex & Marriage  
25. Bre from Owned, Collared, Loved @Pandasproperty
26. Hyacinth Jones from A Dissolute Life Means… @adissolutelife
27. Santha Smith from Secretly Sensuous @SSensuous
28. Ruby Ryer from Pegging Paradise @Ruby_Ryder
29. Charlie Glickman from Charlie Glickman @charlieglickman
30. Cliff from The Pervocracy @pervocracy
31. Marie Rebelle from Rebel’s Notes @rebelsnotes
32. Renee Rose from Renee Rose Romance @ReneeRoseAuthor
33. Lady Cheeky from Smut for Smarties @LadyCheeky
34. The Sin Doll from The Sin Doll @TheSinDoll
35. Cheeky Minx from Love Hate Sex Cake @LoveHateSexCake
36. Seamus from The Wistful Sinner  
37. Athol Kay from Married Man Sex Life  
38. Dangerous Lilly from This Could Be Dangerous @dangerouslilly
39. Lucas Brooks from Top To Bottom @Top2Bottom
40. Epiphora from Hey Epiphora @epiphora
41. Peroxide from Submissive in Seattle @Peroxide__
42. Axe from Unspeakable Axe @unspeakableaxe
43. Ferns from Domme Chronicles @Ferns__
44. Girl on the Net from Girl on the Net @girlonthenet
45. Joan Price from Better Than I Ever Expected @joanprice
46. Cammies from Cammies on the Floor @cammiesonfloor
47. Venice and Ryan from Fuck Blogging @fuckblogging
48. Kaya from Under His Hand  
49. Desi Dassi from Desi Dassi  
50. Jz from A Reluctant Bitch  
51. Cara from Cara Sutra @thecarasutra
52. Caitlin M. from Sexational! @sex_ational
53. Maggie Mayhem from Miss Maggie Mahem @msmaggiemayhem
54. Marian from Creative Noodling  
55. BD Swain from Leaning How To Tell You @redswain
56. Thumper from Denying Thumber @thumperMN
57. Panty Parade from Off Go The Panties  
58. Jade Melisande from Kink and Poly @piecesofjade
59. Will from Lusty Limerickets  
60. Mollena from The Perverted Negress @Mollena
61. Pyx from Syncopation  
62. Sadie Quinn from Sadie Quinn @ladybugsadey
63. Chris McC from Stranded in Toronto @stranded_in_to
64. Kayla Lords from A Sexual Being @KaylaLords
65. vulgarvag from Vuldar Vag @vulgarvag
66. Maggie from The Honest Courtesan @Maggie_McNeill
67. Shon Richards from Erotiterrorist @shonrichards
68. nilla from Vanillamom’s Blog @swirlednilla
69. Wordwytch from Adventures of a Word Wytch  
70. Anastassia from Diary of an Owned Slave @NatiraDarius
71. Dumb Domme from Dumb Domme @DumbDomme
72. Jill McDevitt from A Day in the Life of a Sexologist @sexologistjill
73. Fatal from You Linger Like a Haunting Refrain  
74. lifeofalovergirl from Life of a Lover Girl @lovergirlslife
75. Michael from Malflic @malflic
76. Mrs. Fever from Temperature’s Rising  
77. Tori from Pain’s Pleasure  
78. rougedmount from rougedmount  
79. Heather and Nikki from Vagina Antics @Heather_Cole1 and @Nikki_Blue1
80. Perverse Cowgirl from Hiding in Plain Sight  
81. Property of Potter from Property of Potter @pottersproperty
82. Anakin and padme from Journey to the Darkside @AnakinDarth and @padmeamidala
83. John Brownstone from Southern Sir’s Place  
84. Joe Johnstun from Sexy Little Ideas @joejohnstun
85. Hedone from The Pleasure Principle @pleasure_spot
86. Sangsara from Sexuality Sanctuary @sangsaraB
87. Shadow from Shadowed Seductress @ShadowedS
88. Gemma from Erotic Adventures @swinginggemma
89. TJ from TJ’s Take @tjthemadhatter
90. Scarlett Dubois from A True Unfolding @ATrueUnfolding
91. Adriana Ravenlust from of Sex and Love  
92. Ali from Ali’s Addiction @AlisAddiction
93. Jill from Naked All the Time @nakedjill
94. Emma from Dirty Little Whispers  
95. paltego from Femdom Resource  
96. Catherine Toyooka from Sex Spoken Here @Catcoaches
97. bilikesscifi from A Tale of Bi and Bi @bi_and_bi
98. Sarah from Marvelous Darling @marvydarling
99. mysticlez from Mystic’s Mind Fuck @mysticlez218

Congratulations to all of you and I’m so happy to be in such an awesome community of sex bloggers! It really is special to be singled out as one of the very top 100! Singing “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year” as I sign out….



I made the top 100!!! :D


The folks over at Kinkly put out a list of the Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2013 and guess who is number 87???  ::::Squeal:::: I am soo happy to have been included!!!  Thank you, thank you, to anyone who nominated or voted for me!! 

I know that Pervertically Virtuous was one of the bloggers that did and I so appreciate it!  If you haven’t checked out her blog, make sure to go and take a look.  It’s absolutely fascinating!  You won’t find many people, even in the sex blogging realm, that are near as adventurous as she is!  I am in awe that someone actually goes out and does some of the things she does.  She’s definitely doing her part to encourage sex positivity and exploration.

Wow!!  My first year of blogging is barely under my belt and I have been listed along with the cream of the crop across the internet!  I am so honored! Looking forward to checking out some of the blogs I don’t recognize.

Maybe this will be the motivation I need to push me into writing that book I have been dreaming about!  I told myself, when I first started blogging, that if I could get 250 followers reading my writing, I would do it.  I’m almost there.  The time is near.

On that note, if any of you have suggestions on what you would like to see me write a book about, what you would be interested in learning from me, please let me know!  I am thinking along the lines of an inexpensive ebook that has practical use application. I want it to be advice that my readers can USE in their own lives, based on things I have learned living this lifestyle.  I’d like to keep my blog as is, and free of excessive advertising or any cost to my readers.  Feel free to give ideas in the comments section below! 




Good things come in 3’s….


Yay!! My 3rd nomination for the Very Inspiring Blog Award. This one should be fun! Thank you so much to Speaking Out on Sex for the nomination. I love reading his blog and you should head over there too!

With the acceptance of this award I agree to state 7 facts about myself and to list 15 bloggers that you will find interesting, pinging back to a post of theirs, so they know I’m over here talking about them and that they have recieved the award. 😉 Of course I also display the beautiful award logo on my blog and link back to the awesome person that gave the award to ME. Thank you again Speaking Out On Sex!!

Okay, enough said, let’s get down to the best parts. 🙂 A little history trivia about me.

1. I was born at home to very hippy parents living in some sort of commune on the beach back in the mid 70’s. My parents were never married and from what I understand were basically just roommates/fuck buddies of some sort. My mom was 19 and planned to get an abortion, but my dad convinced her not to. They had no money but grew a garden with the other residents and lived off raw, vegan foods, with a little help from the Hare Krishna’s, who gave out free meals.

2. My grandparents on my father’s side were quite rich and somewhat famous. They lived in a mansion in Southern California. My dad, however, did not get along with them and completely rebelled, forfeiting his inheritance by growing his hair long, burning his draft card and throwing away his prestigious college education and baseball scholarship, in favor of becoming a beach bum. He didn’t believe in materialism, felt the public schools were for raising brainwashed sheep, detested Christianity and said marriage was just a piece of paper (though he did eventually get married he said he only signed the piece of paper because of reasons that my stepmom wanted, lol).

3. My grandmother on my mother’s side was a nudist. She spent her 50th birthday week at a nudist camp celebrating. She also used to practice white witchcraft and read the Tarot. When I was married my ex husband and I accidentally came across nude photos of her….with two men. They weren’t actually having sex in the pictures, but well, I can imagine what might have been going on, ha!

4. My mom is a drug addict and pretty hardcore. She’s tried to commit suicide twice and the first time the doctors said she was going to die but she didn’t. I’ve got a lot of resentment and anger towards her for this and some of her behavior in general. She was fired from a succession of nursing jobs for stealing hydrocodone and morphine from her patients and has been arrested and thrown in jail a few times for stealing. She’s quite the kleptomaniac. Somehow though, she always gets out of things. She doesn’t even bother to hire a lawyer and stands up in court and defends herself and the judge listens.

5. I was pretty badly physically, emotionally and mentally abused as a child, mostly by my stepfathers but I can’t discount my mother’s part in it all. Social services was called in when I was 7 due to my coming to school completely covered in bruises from being beaten so badly with a belt that I think I passed out. Like there wasn’t an inch on my body from the waist down (on the backside) that wasn’t bruised or welted. I had been feeling sick and couldn’t finish my dinner so I had wrapped some green beans and tomatoes in a napkin and thrown them in the trash and my stepfather found them. Anyhow that incident brought social workers into my home to try and help him learn how to discipline better but it didn’t really work. Even as bad as that was, the next stepfather was emotionally worse.

6. On a lighter note, we had a dog when I was little that rang the doorbell when he wanted to be let in the house. He was a German Shepherd that had been trained by my uncle.

7. I was homeschooled for a year of high school while living with my father and stepmother and didn’t follow any kind of curriculum but read a lot of great books and spent a lot of time at the beach. I think I learned more that year than all of my years of public schooling combined. I devoured book after book that I chose for myself as well as those my father and stepmother recommended. I read such works as The Brethren, Autobiography of a Yogi, The Autobiography of Malcom X, Hawaii by James Michener, as well as classics like Anna Karenina, several books by Charles Dickens, Hemingway, and Shakespeare, Moby Dick, 1984, Farenheit 451, Animal Farm, and I could go on all day. When I went back to public school the following year it was disappointing how painstaking my classic literature class really was and how they took the fun out of reading really good books by dissecting them to pieces.

Anyhow, now for my list of bloggers you will like!

1. Sex and the Shameless
2. An Open Book
3. Emarie24
4. Polysingleish
5. Two Ghosts
6. The Sexy Ferkel
7. Thoughts in My Mind
8. The Trials and Tribulations of Miss Poly
9. Slave Redefined
10. Postmodern Curious Man
11. The Southern MILF
12. Finding Mr. Wrong…. I Mean Mr. Right
13. Malibu Mom
14. Tell Me A Fable
15. Clean Cut, All American

Till later! Hope you all have a wonderful weekend!! 🙂

Once, twice, three times a Liebster Lady!!

Patty Liebster

I have been named the recipient of the Liebster award for both the 2nd and 3rd time! So exciting!! I am loving my newfound popularity here in Blogland!! Thank you, thank you to Fortysomethingsingleandskint and Confessions of an Online Dater!! Everyone should totally check out each of these blogs!! You will find them both quite intriguing and entertaining. 🙂 🙂 🙂

The rules of the Liebster Award are as follows:

■Thank the person who nominated you
■Answer the eleven questions they asked you
■Nominate eleven other people
■Ask them eleven questions in return

Ideally, the Liebster Award should be sent to blogs that are still fairly new and have less than 200 followers, to help others see how awesome they are!

Clearly people are acknowledging my awesomeness and I’m loving it!! 😉 I started blogging a little over 5 months ago and am currently nearing 150 followers. I am stoked that so many are interested in what I have to write about. You all are wonderful!! xoxoxoxo

Rather than answer all 22 questions, I’ve picked and chosen between the two sets and answered the eleven I thought my readers would most like to learn about me.

1. Do your ‘real life’ friends know about and/or read your blog?

Oh my Lord, I hope not!! Hahahaha If they do, I hope they don’t know it’s me, LMAO. Seriously though, there are probably a few who know who I am or have met me online only, but no one I’ve met in real life, unless anyone is reading that is keeping their mouth shut. I guess it wouldn’t be the end of the world, but I do talk openly about a lot of things that normally remain private in my life.

2. What’s your favourite movie and why?

Hmmm… I have such a hard time picking “favorites” of almost anything. If I had to pick movies that I love and would watch over and over and over it’s usually musicals. Grease! Phantom of the Opera. Annie. I don’t really watch a lot of movies honestly though, and when I do I’m usually picking something new. I did like The Curious Case of Benjamin Button quite a bit. Oh and of course Love and Basketball!! I found this foreign movie awhile back on Netflix that I was kind of fascinated with called Diary of a Nymphomaniac. It wasn’t the best made movie or anything but the idea behind it and some of the quotes from the grandma were quite interesting. Maybe I identified with it a bit (cough, cough) lol. 😉

3. What is your earliest childhood memory?

If you can believe this, my earliest childhood memory is laying in a crib chewing on the head of this little rubber giraffe that my mother claims we got rid of when I was about a year and a half. I have a few other early memories. My older stepbrothers taking my toys from me and making me cry on my 3rd birthday, riding the city bus by myself to preschool because we didn’t have a car (can you imagine that nowadays? LOL) The bus driver did kind of look out for me though.

My first stepfather attempting to wash my long hair, when my mom was gone, and doing it all wrong. I must have been 2 or 3 but he clearly had no clue and was making it into a tangled mess and I was in tears.

I remember being left home alone at 4 years old because we only had a motorcycle and my mom was too pregnant for me to fit when they went to doctor appointments. I guess we couldn’t afford a babysitter either. There was no food in the house so I ate an entire bottle of vitamin C and got pretty sick. That’s when they discovered I was allergic to the orange juice in them.

Oh and around that time this little neighbor boy locked himself in the house when my parents were gone. We actually lived on the top floor of an old, Victorian style house where people rented out rooms. There was no bathroom in our house and I had to walk down a long flight of stairs to get to the one on the second floor that was shared by several people. It was especially scary at night, past the big open front door. Anyhow, I had gone to the restroom and one of the boys who lived directly at the bottom of the stairs (two little black boys who were like 2 and 3 years old that I sometimes played with lived there with their crackhead mother) had went through our door and managed to lock himself in there and couldn’t get out. Boy was his mama MAD!

As you can see my childhood wasn’t exactly ideal. That place was infested with roaches and I remember running around talking to the various tenants that lived in the house. A group of men would sit out on the front porch smoking pot and I’d harass them with questions until they’d tell me my mother was calling for me. Downstairs in the basement was a lesbian couple and there was a hippy guy with long hair and a beard in one of the rooms that would sit there and play his guitar while I sat in the doorway and listened. Amazingly I don’t think anyone ever did anything to hurt me while we lived in that place though, despite my being allowed to pretty much run wild, being left alone, climbing out windows to play on the roof and talking to all the interesting characters who came to stay. A couple weeks after we moved out the entire place burned down to the ground due to some kind of fire hazard.

4. Describe your ideal home.

My ideal home would have a big, open kitchen with a nice sized island counter in the middle and lots of cabinets. There would be two ovens and two dishwashers and two refrigerators. I’d have a nice big formal dining room. It would have like 6 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms. The master bedroom would be completely soundproof. There would be a hot tub in the master bath and lots of closet space. I’d have a huge library. Downstairs would be a nice big rec room with soundproof, indestructible, soft walls that you’d just bounce off of if you banged into there would be all kinds of play equipment, trampolines and stuff to get my boys energy out on!! There would be a huge, privacy fenced backyard and a pool (of course!). Of course, there would be someone else to clean all this….

5. Do you believe in “happy ever after”?

Let’s just say I believe anyone can be “happily ever after” if they set their mind to be a happy person despite the circumstances! As far as eternally “happy” with one person forever? Hmmmm…. That’s debateable!! I used to believe that was possible and maybe for some people it is. I think it’s human nature though, to want what we DON’T have and too much time with the same person can drive anyone to boredom. So basically, you have to make your own happiness. You can’t depend on another person to do that for you and really, a little variety can be nice. So sure you can be happily ever after with that one person but it’s really not because of them, it’s because of YOU. Capisce?

6. Which do you prefer, summer or winter?

Summer!!! I hate cold!! I love sun!!! I love swimming and being out in the sunshine. Now here, the summers get pretty miserably hot and muggy, which I hate, but summer is still better than winter. Ideally I’d be able to actually get out and do fun stuff like go to a beach or waterpark, but hey, I’ll still take summer over winter any day. My favorite weather is about 85-90 degrees, slightly dry with a nice breeze. Ahhhhh….

7. What’s your worst fear?

Something bad happening to any of my children. Having them grow up to live an unhappy life.

8. What’s your greatest possession?

Actual possession? Haha. I really don’t have much at all in the way of possessions. My children of course but if you are talking objects, gosh, I think it’s a tossup between my cell phone and my sex toy. I don’t want to have to live without either one! Okay, maybe not. I value my photo albums above all that. Thing is, in the past few years all my photos are on flashdrives or the computer, or on my phone. Changes it up a bit! Back in the day I used to make scrapbooks, back when my oldest children were little. I kind of miss that and feel bad that I don’t have those for the younger ones.

9. What is your most embarrassing moment?

Ha! On my Beautiful Blogger award post I talk about the time I got caught masturbating by 3 neighbor boys. That was one of them. The other time that stands out was when I was in about 6th grade and was on my period and at school. I had raised my hand to ask to use the restroom and the teacher wouldn’t allow me to go and so it soaked through the back of the pad and my shorts. I managed to get a jacket to tie around my waist but not before some boys saw it and were laughing at me. Mortifying. A teacher of girls that age ought to have some basic consideration for things like that. Sheesh.

10. When is the last time you had sex?

Monday. Today is Friday so 4 days ago. It was with my fuck buddy. I saw the Professor the previous Thursday, so 4 days before that.

11. Name something you do when you’re alone that you wouldn’t do in front of others.

Hmmm….well, I guess there’s the obvious, masturbate! LOL Only I’ve done it in front of the Professor, but it was hard to orgasm with him watching or at least it was different. Still, I’ve done it on video for him for his birthday. 😉 Other than that, well, I’m not really one to cry in front of people. That is hard for me too. It’s pretty rare that I let someone see me cry. I generally have to go in another room or hang up the phone or something.

Alright folks, here are the blogs I nominate for the award this time!

1. Not Guilty by Reason of Menopause
2. What’s in the Box?
3. Let Love Go
4. Cotswoldsgirl
5. Sweaty Sweetie
6. Thatcrackedblack
7. Escort Memories
8. New Single Guy
9. Sex and the Sisters
10. I, Elle Tueff
11. Writedownthatblog

Finally, here are my questions to the bloggers I chose for this prestigious award! 🙂

1. What would you say is the main “point” of your blog?
2. Have you ever had sex in a unique place or someplace public? Tell us about it!
3. Name 3 songs that remind you of someone in your life or a relationship you’ve been in in the past.
4. What are your feelings about monogamy?
5. Five years ago, would you have pictured yourself where you are today, relationship wise? How have things changed or not changed in that time period?
6. What is something that is on your sexual bucket list?
7. Have you ever been caught in an awkward position or having sex with someone (or almost caught)? Tell us your story.
8. Do you have a “type” that you go for romantically or sexually? What is your “type” like?
9. How many times in your life have you been “in love” with someone?
10. Do your close friends know what your sex life is like? What kinds of things do they know about it?
11. How much do you like to talk/text/email/be in contact with someone you are in a relationship with?

Enjoy!! Until next time…… 😉

Inspired by me?? I am so honored!! :D


Your very own Lovergirl has been awarded the Very Inspiring Blogger Award! Thank you so much to the lovely Kay of the DAFT Diaries! Her blog is an inspiration to ME so I am especially honored!! If you haven’t gone over there to take a peek, please do!

The rules of this award are pretty similar to the others:

1.) Display the award logo on your blog.
2.) Link back to the person who nominated you.
3.) State 7 things about yourself.
4.) Nominate 15 bloggers for this award.
5.) Notify those bloggers of the nomination by linking to one of their specific posts so that they get notified by ping back.

So let’s get to the exciting stuff!! 😉

7 MORE intriguing facts about your favorite Lovergirl:

1. One of my most embarrassing moments ever was being caught masturbating by not one, not two, but THREE guys peeking in the window of my bedroom back in high school. They were three sort of nerdy neighborhood boys around my age who happened to come peer in between the slats of my blinds while I was fingering away. Of course, they had to spread the news far and wide and I denied, denied, denied!! Who me? I would never do such a naughty thing!! I’m sure everyone believed that one! NOT!! Total humiliation!

Nowadays kids seem a lot more likely to fess up about the fact that they masturbate, at least my kid does. I found an opened sample of baby shampoo in the boys’ room awhile back and the first thing out of my 13 year old’s mouth was “I WASN’T using that to jack off!!” Err….TMI son, TMI!!! LOL That never would have even OCCURRED to me if you’d kept your mouth shut!! Haha

2. I am in love with the SongPop game on Facebook. If I could design a perfect game that’s exactly what it would be like! I’m excelling in the Classic Rap, Classic RnB, Mowtown, and 80’s and 90’s music categories as well as doing pretty well with Duets, Funk and Soul. You know you wanna play me!! Nevermind that half the time when I’m playing I have LOUD kids in the background or people talking to me and distractions going on, I’m still killing it!! 😉

3. I’ve never been to a Karaoke bar. Never!! They were just starting to become popular back in the late 90’s while I was busy getting married to a man that was deeply involved in the church and ministry and totally against drinking or going to bars. There was no alcohol at my wedding (lame!!) He wouldn’t even go to movie theatres. We were that hardcore into conservative Christianity and we lived out in the middle of nowhere surrounded by Amish people. Someone needs to take me to one and soon!! 😀

4. When I lived near a secluded beach in Hawaii I used to sometimes hike up among the sand and rocks, strip off all my clothes and sunbathe or swim naked, fantasizing that some random hot guy would be watching and come along and fuck me. It never happened though! Where the hell are all the sexy strangers when you need them? 😉

5. I never went to my high school prom. I was having sex with a few different people but no one asked me. 😦 I guess they didn’t think of me as the type to take home to Mama. Plus, I didn’t have money for a dress. So instead I went to a three day music festival featuring local bands with a group of friends, managed to get in for free and had a crazy time. I’ll bet that was way more fun than a formal dance anyhow….

6. I taught Sunday School for years and Children’s Church and wrote and performed puppet shows and taught preschool and was a day camp counselor. My ex was in ministry and I homeschooled our kids. I’m like the queen of thrift and even used to make my own baby wipes and cleaning supplies and bread and tortillas and all sorts of stuff to save money. I’d bet you’d never guess I’d be the type to lead a secret life. Shhhhh……

Thing is that during that time, at least for the first 11 years of my marriage and the couple of years of dating my ex- husband before that, I WASN’T living a double life. I was faithful and beyond reproach, even though he wasn’t showing much interest in sex with me and even though I felt rejected and alone. I’m living proof that a ho CAN actually turn into a housewife….at least for awhile! I finally cheated ON my 11th Anniversary, a day that my ex -husband had refused sex with me anyway.

7. I ran away from home on my 14th Birthday, from my psychotic, crack smoking stepfather who had threatened to kill me with a gun. He was angry that I had been trying to tell people he was molesting my 6 year old sister. Someone had called the police after seeing him grab me and shove me onto the stairs and slap me across the face so I told them of his threat and he convinced them I was full of shit. They handed me a business card and told me he wasn’t allowed to make threats and to call if I had any more issues. So he unplugged all the phones in the house and sat in between the front and back door on the lower level of the house to prevent me from escaping.

I managed to climb out a second story bathroom window, hanging down and dropping from it to the ground below and made a run for my life. The cops never caught up with me though one time my stepfather came past a friend’s house where we were hiding alone and we stayed in a closet while he banged on the door and made threats, hoping he couldn’t see we were actually there. Eventually I turned myself in by going to school and was sent away to live with my father for a year and later with other relatives and my grandma but I never went back home to live with my mother. That’s just the tip of the iceberg. I could fill a book with true tales from my childhood that would make a great Lifetime movie.

And NOW, for the Grand Finale!! 15 fascinating bloggers that you absolutely MUST check out!! I noticed that some of my favorites are also on the list of the lovely woman who nominated me so I am trying to avoid repeats! There are just so many great blogs out there! Please take a look at these ones!!

1. Confessions of a Preacher’s Daughter
2. Her Secret Library
3. Jack of all Triads
4. Epicurus and Lilith
5. SeattlePolyGuy
6. SnarkySnatch
7. State of Grace
8. The Hunt for Mr. Right Now
9. Speaking out on Sex
10. Smooth Re-entry
11. Pyx
12. Growing Up Little
13. The Poly Orange
14. Nice Girls Like Sex Too
15. Pilot Precise

P.S. I actually recieved the Very Inspiring Blogger Award from TWO different people!! The second one being Newly Single Guy, who I was going to put on my list here but saw he had already been nominated. Thank you, thank you, thank you!! 😀 So here’s a shout out to him! Love his blog and reading his thoughts!

I’m a beautiful blogger!! :D


Yay!!! I’ve been nominated for another blog award, or as Joe over at MyJadedParts, who submitted my blog for the award, calls it, a “chain” award, haha. That’s okay, because I love the attention and love that my blog is being recognized. So excited to pass on some more chain mail, lol.

Anyhoo, here are the rules, which are very similar to the rules of the Liebster award I received, only there are less questions to answer so I’m gonna make this one a little more sexual and be like Joe over there exposing my 7 “freaky” facts. 😉

1) Post a photo of the Beautiful Blogger Award in your blog post (isn’t it lovely?)

2) Thank the person who nominated me for the award and provide a link to their blog: Thank you Joe!! You are awesome, Rainbow Brite fetish and all….

3) Share 7 facts about myself: okay, here goes!!

7 Freaky Facts about the Lovergirl you love and thought you knew 😉

1. I lost my virginity at the tender age of 13, to a 15 year old guy that I was dating, in a hotel room. It wasn’t OUR hotel room though. We broke into it with a stolen key and had sex on the bed, next to someone else’s luggage, in the hopes that they wouldn’t return before we were finished. Yeah, I got started with a BANG, lol…. Figures.

2. My first anal sex I was also 13 and in a public sauna that was next to the swimming pool of that same hotel. The only difference is that I didn’t LIKE the anal sex so much. We had never heard of lube and he just kind of rammed it in and I got dizzy and lightheaded and almost threw up, which was very similar to my second anal experience and why I’m really just not an “anal girl”. I know, I know, BORING, but hey, it’s a personal preference and just not my thing. I’m not against trying it again, with the right guy, but I really don’t care for the way it feels. A guy at my first swinger party tried to stick it in there too (without asking, as has been my experiences thus far) and got about halfway before I pushed him away. It didn’t feel good to me at all.

3. I was sleeping with multiple guys at once before polyamory was cool. I’d even say some of the activities I got involved with were typical of an adult swingers party. However, we were not adults. I also had a regular rotation of guys that I slept with without ever having to plan anything. People were just calling and showing up to fuck all the time. That was a part of my underground lifestyle back in high school. A lot of people would never have known, but of course I did have a reputation among the ones that did.

4. I’ve had sex in a lot of crazy places. This includes public bathrooms, outside in the woods and on the lake, in parking lots, in cars while others were driving, in ditches on the side of the road, outside my grandmother’s bedroom window doggystyle in the snow with a big coat on, threesomes on picnic tables at the park, at a public swimming pool we had snuck into at night, in a hot tub whilst chatting with an old man, blow jobs on the roof of a junior high school (school was not in session though) and at the lake while the guy was floating on a raft and probably a lot more that I am not thinking of off the top of my head. Maybe the worst was in a public porta potty at the lake. Thankfully it was a fairly new one and not too smelly and also the guy made SURE I didn’t have to touch anything. He was standing up and holding me so I wouldn’t have to get any germs, lol. We just couldn’t wait until later!!

5. I held a lot of shame in my mind over some of my sexual escapades in the past, including things like a couple of gangbangs (technically trains ran on me) that as an adult I can see I wasn’t solely responsible for (some of the guys were older, there were a lot more of them than me and I was scared, intimidated and said no at first but was too afraid not to cooperate) and from being one of those girls you hear about in rap songs who was doing the whole damn crew but now that I am older and in a place where I can have more control over things and better self- esteem I am getting over it and realizing I am not a bad person for ENJOYING sexual activity with whoever I CHOOSE to have it with. I’m fascinated that there are women in the swinger community who fantasize about the sort of thing I was subject to at a young age but I don’t think it’s for me at all.

6. My sexual number is not as high as it might sound! It is over 50 but actually the vast majority of people I have slept with were regular, repeat customers (no I’ve never been paid for sex). I was married pretty young and for the first 11 years did not cheat so that took out a huge chunk of possible sex partner number rack up, lol.

7. I have some fantasies that are still left unfulfilled. Among them are wanting to experience things like being tied up and blindfolded. Someday! Not really wanting serious BDSM or anything, but just a little bit, lol. I have a bit of a Daddy fetish too and really, really want a REAL over the knee type spanking but haven’t gotten that yet either. 😉

Now for the 7 blogs that I recommend you check out!! There are so many and I want to bring attention to some of the ones I didn’t get last time. Anyway, here are some great ones that you should take a look at!

1. The Romantic Misogynist
2. The DAFT Diaries
3. FreeChick
4. Kdaddy23
5. sexuallifeofawife
6. Comingcleanaboutgettingdirty
7. yesmylifeisagongshow

DRUMROLL…. My First Blog Award!! :D

I am so excited!! My first ever blog award!! Thank you, http://seattlepolychick.com/ for nominating me!! 😀

My blog was started less than two months ago and I have been thrilled at the response level. I’m really happy that my writing has caught people’s attention and is being read by so many already. Seattlepolychick’s blog was one of the first ones I discovered on WordPress and I am especially honored that she found mine intriguing enough to mention! If you haven’t checked out her writing yet, please do. Her stories of everyday life as a polyamorous woman and her different lovers are fascinating and encouraging to me. 🙂

So here are the RULES of accepting the Liebster award, which I will try my best to follow,

* When one receives the award, one posts 11 random facts about oneself and answers the 11 questions asked by the person who nominated you.

*Pass the award onto 11 other blogs (while making sure one notifies the blogger that one nominated them!)

* One writes up 11 NEW questions directed towards YOUR nominees.

* One is not allowed to nominate the blog who nominated one’s own blog!

* One pastes the award picture into ones blog. (You can google the image, there are plenty of them!)

SO, without further ado…..


1. I learned to swim before I learned how to walk. I started taking swimming lessons with a world renowned swimming teacher who worked with babies when I was 4 months old. Swimming still seems almost more natural than walking to me! I am an excellent swimmer and once saved a drunken man who had tried to commit suicide by drowning himself. He had swum way out to the middle of the lake and was screaming for help now that he’d changed his mind. He was twice my size but I managed to pull him back to shore.

2. Of all of my siblings that have the same mother I am the only “white” child. My brothers and sisters are racially and ethnically mixed (some with Hispanic, some black, and my stepsiblings are black). I jokingly refer to myself as “the white sheep of the family”.

3. I was a precocious child and by the age of 4, thanks to my grandmother, I was reading at an adult level. Because of this I was put in the gifted program at school. I stayed for a few years but the teachers complained that I was lazy and not living up to my potential. Probably this had something to do with the abuse I endured at home and an inability to focus on schoolwork or do homework. Still, school was always easy for me and I got pretty good grades with very little effort, acing pretty much every test that was given to me and even winning some awards for my writing.

4. I once danced in a rap video. No really, lol. It was the lamest, worst “rapper” you ever heard and part of a just say NO to drugs campaign. My high school media/film class and the Black Student Union at school were asked to take part and they filmed two separate videos. The first one was using all black kids and the second one, they needed some white people. I guess I fit the bill, haha. So we had to dance to this horribly pathetic guy rapping and it was shown to thousands of schools across the country in an effort to discourage drug use. I was smoking pot back then too. Shhhhh….

5. I used to work in a home for boys with behavioral disorders and now I have one of my own. Oh, boy, is it a challenge and you’d think I would be prepared to deal with it but every day can be a struggle. I never dreamed I would be here because I thought being a good parent would ensure having well behaved kids. I’m sad to say it doesn’t always work out that way. This one is trying to prove me wrong every step of the way. I’m humbled for sure.

6. I love to cook! I really enjoy trying new recipes and improving on old ones. A few years ago I put together my very own cookbook filled with recipes I’ve found and loved and gathered favorites from friends and family. I made copies for all my close friends and families and gave them as Christmas presents, interspersed with scrapbook pages with pictures of my family and those included on my list. It was a lot of work but so worth it! I use my cookbook all the time. and get calls from others who are enjoying it as well.

7. I didn’t have a TV from the time I started college until about 8 months ago (approximately 17 years) and barely missed it at all. I’m not a big television watcher even now that we have one because I rarely have the time for it. Back in the day I mostly watched MTV and VH1 anyway, when they actually played music videos. It’s always been hard for me just to sit there and WATCH something for hours. I don’t even like long, involved movies.

8. In the rare event that I actually watch television (usually only when I’m working out), I generally pick things that are light and funny. My favorite TV shows are The New Adventures of Old Christine and Sex and the City.

9. I love music, love to sing and was in choir much of my life. I am a bit too shy for solos but I’ve also been in musicals such as Oliver and Bye Bye Birdie in the past and a handful of plays. I don’t know how to read music and have never learned to play an instrument, though I always wished I’d had the opportunity.

10. I was a cheerleader in junior high. I never really could get into being one of the snotty girls though. I’m way too sensitive for that and used to get called on to go talk to the one (slightly) overweight girl on the squad all the time when she got hurt feelings because I was apparently the only one capable of being nice to her.

11. I’ve never mowed a lawn before. Or changed a tire or done any of a myriad of “man jobs”, lol. I can be a little bit prissy about things like that. Don’t wanna mess up my hair/nails you know!

My ANSWERS to the questions asked of me:

1. What are you most proud of?

I’m proud of myself just for making it through life thus far without completely falling apart! I’ve been through a lot but I’m proud of my resilience and ability to bounce back without allowing things to affect me negatively.

2. Who inspires you?

I’m inspired by my grandmother. She too, has had an amazing and interesting, but often very challenging, life and is one of the most cheerful and happy seeming people I know. She also looks so young for her age. I hope to be the same way!

3. What is your favorite holiday?

Christmas!! I love it! I love the feeling of Christmas, the generosity of people during that season, seeing my children’s eyes light up on Christmas morning, singing Christmas carols, all of it. 🙂 I refuse to let the materialism of the season get me down and prefer to see all the positives.

4. Who are some of your favorite authors?

Oh man. This should be easy because I love to read and love books but it’s just too hard to pick! Plus I haven’t been able to sit down and read much for MYSELF in ages! Mostly I am reading children’s books and classics with my kids. I’ve read a lot of books and a lot of really great authors but to even try to remember who my favorites are is just overwhelming.

I’ve read a lot of classic literature but I am just going to leave you with a couple books that I have read recently instead. They are of a more practical variety.

One is a must read for every woman, especially those who have been in an abusive or difficult relationship. It’s called Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, by Lundy Bancroft. I went through that book with a highlighter and found my ex-husband, over and over and over again, which kind of surprised me because he had seemed so passive. It was really eye opening.

The other book is the one I am reading right now but still haven’t gotten a chance to finish. It’s called The Ethical Slut, A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities, by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt.

5. why do you write a blog?

I’ve always loved to write and this blog is actually kind of therapeutic to me. It’s nice to be able to write out my experiences and feelings. My original purpose in starting it was to see if anyone would be interested in reading my writing. It’s been a long time dream of mine to write a book but I wondered if anyone would read it. I wanted to see how I did in the blog world first!

6. what did you want to be as a kid?

An actress, lol, of course!! 😉

7. who would play you in a movie about your life? (in your dreams)

Gosh, that’s a hard one! Maybe Sandra Bullock.

8. name 5 really great musicians or bands.

Oh wow, that’s like choosing which guy to have sex with!! 😉 LOL I love so many different musicians and bands, of various genres, though overall RnB is my favorite. More old school than the newer stuff though. Hmmmmm…. okay, how about Tom Petty, R. Kelly, the Isley Brothers, Anthony Hamilton and Jodeci. LOL

9. do you ever get jealous?

Yes, see my blog post on the Evolution of Jealousy for that one!!

10. do you believe in love that lasts forever?

You know, I believe love, as in caring for another person can last forever. Just like you love your kids and your siblings forever and your parents if you are a person who had parents who cared about you (I really didn’t). As for romantic love, I think the “romantic” part probably only lasts a few years. Then, it’s a different kind of love that isn’t as exciting. It can change to a caring love or sometimes it fades away.

11. anything odd that turns you on?

Odd? Probably not, but I’m not sure. I think most of the things that turn me on are probably pretty typical. I like guys that are really confident, dominant but not mean. I think I’m pretty normal in that regard. I like spankings and a little rough play but it seems that’s common.

Eleven blogs you should really check out!! 🙂 There are so many, but this was just off the top of my head!


Eleven questions for those who accept this award:

1. What was your first sexual experience like?
2. If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be and why?
3. Do your friends and family know you have a blog? Why or why not?
4. What are some songs that remind you of your current relationship(s)?
5. What is one of your favorite meals to eat for dinner?
6. Tell us one of your funny or embarrassing dating experiences.
7. What do you think about marriage?
8. Name a book you would recommend to your blog readers?
9. Name something out of the ordinary that you have done sexually. It can be an act, a place you’ve had sex, whatever.
11. What is the most annoying habit of the opposite sex (or people you are dating of the same sex)?