My Men

group of men

Per reader request here is a quick synopsis of the men I see regularly, so you know who I’m talking about in my posts. (March 2013)
I’m a bit overdue for a new update so here you go!! October 29, 2015

The Cohort is gone. I think I can safely say it’s over. We haven’t even spoken in 2 months or seen each other in almost 5. I’m sad and it does still hurt, but life goes on. I wonder if I’ll ever see him again? Maybe, and maybe not.

The newest man is The CEO. I’m kind of smitten! He seems almost too good to be true!! He’s handsome and physically fit, he’s rich and very successful, he’s a former college football player for a kind of big name school, he’s AMAZING in bed and he claims to be single! So far he’s been really sweet and good to me. I’m in heaven! He travels a lot so I don’t know how often we will see each other, but so far he has made a point to schedule time with me when he is here!

Radioman is a guy I met off Tinder who works for one of my favorite radio stations. He’s a lot of fun in bed and chill to hang out with. I see him fairly often, a couple times a week and he’s basically a FWB.

The Boring guy is alright, he’s just not very exciting. He doesn’t like to get out of his comfort zone much, in or out of the bedroom. He doesn’t seem to take me seriously when I tell him I’m not looking for a commitment because he seems to think I’m not going to sleep with others. He also insists on perceiving me as sweet and “innocent”. I don’t know about all that…. I dropped him for awhile when I had the last miscarriage with the Cohort, but he is back. He has bought me some really nice presents and taken me to concerts and out to eat. He’s nice enough, just a little difficult to communicate with.

The Married Man has gotten frustrated with me because I don’t see him as often as he would like. I just feel a lot of pressure from him. He’s momentarily disappeared, but he always comes back.

The Pilot I still see every so often in his flaky, flit in and out style.

Mr. Firm has a lot going on in his life at the moment, but we saw each other not too long ago, and it was still a lot of fun. I don’t doubt that it will happen again. πŸ˜‰

Chicago still wants to hang out with me, even though I told him a couple months ago that I just don’t feel any chemistry. Every once in awhile we will go out for drinks and I tried to have sex with him again, but it still sucked…

Mr. Poly still tries to hit me up once in awhile, but frankly I’ve lost interest. The Producer just got married but has emailed and texted me a couple times recently on the sly. Not that excited about him either. The Host seems to have disappeared. I suspect he’s in a relationship with someone.

That’s pretty much it for now!! I’ll let you all know if anything changes! πŸ˜‰
Wow!! It’s been almost a whole year since I have updated this section of my blog. Time for the latest rundown! (May 29, 2015)

Right now, the main player is still The Cohort. I’m so in love. There have been ups and downs, but I freaking adore him. I know he doesn’t want a commitment, and I understand that, but there is definitely a big part of me that wishes that were different. I’m trying hard though to accept what IS. I’m trying to convince myself that that wouldn’t be a good idea anyway, and really, it might not.

Chicago is the newest guy. He probably won’t last too long though. He’s great about pampering and spending money on me, but the sexual chemistry just isn’t doing it for me. He also, has a bad habit of brushing me off and treating my words like they are unimportant. It feels offensive.

The Married Man still tries to get together a lot. Most of the time I turn him down. I’m just not feeling him the way I used to. Yet, every once in awhile we will have an encounter.

The Pilot flies in and out of my life in his typical flaky manner. Every once in a while we have sex and usually it is in some risque place because his house is too far of a drive.

Mr. Firm
– we haven’t had sex in quite some time and we don’t even text as much as we used to, but I’m not keeping him out of the realm of possibility. πŸ™‚ It’s great when we do have sex!

The Host, still lives around the corner and he has hit me up, but it’s also been quite some time. Maybe.

I think Mr. Poly is gone. I wasn’t really feeling him and he’s kind of faded out. There was a temporary guy I will call Mr. Boring, who was nice enough and bought me some nice gifts, but I cut him off when I had my second miscarriage.

That’s all for now folks!
I think it’s time for another update (June 12, 2014)

The Cohort is a newish guy that I have been seeing quite a bit of. I like him a lot, the sex is good and he really makes me laugh. I could totally see having something more with him but don’t want to get my hopes up. In the mean time we are having a lot of fun together and I am helping him with his business, from home. πŸ™‚ I’m actually kind of enjoying that too. We work well together, plus, I am getting paid!

Mr. Firm is still out there and still the gold standard on what a man should be like and how he should act with all of this. Of course, he is awesome in bed too! He’s still farther away than some of the others but once in awhile we get together for a little fun.

The Married Man Yep, he’s still around. Gosh, he’s actually held on the longest of all these men so far, since before the beginning of my blog! Funny, because we were originally supposed to be a one night stand. Anyhow, I am doing a little work for him too and every once in awhile we get together for some hot sex.

Mr. Poly has become a bit of a Sugar Daddy, even though he says he’s not. I’m still not real into the situation with him and his girlfriend, but hey, I am enjoying the benefits. If those stop, I probably will too. I mean, they are nice enough, and he’s decent looking. I just am not really feeling the whole thing and being a third wheel to their relationship. Keep bribing me though…lol

Mr. Host is still a fuck buddy. Random, but occasional encounters. His cousin (the third one I met/fucked) has been hitting me up again lately too, hmmmm…

Other than that:

I’ve decided to cut ties with Mr. Shady. He was giving me the creeps.

The Pilot pulled a mild asshole move that he could make right if he wanted to, but we will see. For now, I’m scratching him off the list. If history repeats itself, he may be back.

I’m really not wanting anything to do with The Bodybuilder. I just can’t get turned on by him. He’s too young and inexperienced for me.

Oh, and just in case you were wondering what ever happened to my FWB, he moved away to Minnesota. We are still on good terms but the chances of us ever seeing one another again are slim.

Since my move to a new city, here is what’s up with the current men in my life (April 2014)

The Married Man and The Pilot are back! I’m guessing the both of them may be kind of sporadic. The Married Man is still flaky as ever and The Pilot is in love with someone.

Mr. Host is right nearby and still a fuck buddy. He has suggested seeing each other weekly, but only time will tell.

Mr. Firm is closer than he used to be, though its still a bit of a drive. I’m excited about the possibility of seeing him a little more often though. He continues to impress me in every way. πŸ™‚

Mr. Bodybuilder helped me move up here but we haven’t had sex since those first couple of times. He’s a great guy, just not sure that I’m that “into” him for whatever reason. Maybe it’s his age. He’s a little young for my taste. Still, he’s around and a “maybe”.

The rest aren’t worth a mention at the moment, but I’ll be sure to let you all know if that changes! πŸ˜‰


Okay, looks like it’s time for an end of the year update! As of December 28, 2013 my Fuck Buddy has moved away. Waaaah 😦 I’ve still got my wonderful Mr. Firm though! πŸ™‚ I can also add in a couple new ones.

Mr. Host is a guy who hosts swinger parties and wants me to help promote them. He and I ended up having some great sex and overall he seems pretty cool. He’s a divorced man and lives a few hours away in a big city. Beforehand he told me he doesn’t want a relationship, just the fwb thing, but his actions seem to say a little differently. Trying not to be swayed this time, I’ve seen this before πŸ˜‰ lol.

Mr. Bodybuilder is a young one. He’s super hot, but only 24. He just got out of the military and is working on his bodyguard license, plus is a bouncer at a club. He comes off as a little bit shy and is new to the whole swinger scene but he wants for us to be at least occasional fuck buddies. I might be able to do that. πŸ˜‰ He lives near Mr. Host.

November 24, 2013- Welp, 3 more down the drain. No more Mr. Motorcycle. The Married Man appears to be over and done with due to guilt issues, and I’m through with the Referee. Fortunately Mr. Firm and my Fuck Buddy are still awesome as can be.

October 27, 2013- I want to add in Mr. Motorcycle. He lives in town and we have been going to some parties together. He seems to want a lot more of a “relationship” than I do though and is moving a little fast. I’m also a bit worried about some control freak tendencies and red flags. Keeping my eye out.

Well, here is another update for you all. As of October 14, 2013.

The Producer is gone. He fell madly in love with some random hillbilly and is acting like a damn fool. Oh well. Maybe someday, like most men, he will come back. But no telling if I will still be interested by then, especially after being sidelined the way he did me.

My Fuck Buddy is still here and wonderful as ever.

Mr. Firm is still on standby for when he travels this way or I go his direction. We are still cool and definitely plan to go at it again!

The Referee is my newest man. So far we’ve been having fun and great sex. He seems pretty into me but we all know how that goes. He is single, divorced and from the swinger site. He lives about an hour and a half away but has said “you are going to have me driving up here all the time”. Yeah, I’ve heard that one before ;).

The Married Man is still hitting me up wanting to meet from time to time, then flaking off, so who knows? He wanted to meet this weekend and was like “no bs” but I might not be able to. Even he knows he sucks at following through. Someday….hopefully! LOL
To cut back on the confusion, here is the rundown of the men I am CURRENTLY seeing, as of Sept. 2, 2013. The stories of the others are still up here for you to read. πŸ˜‰

The Producer and I are still seeing each other once or twice a week and Mr. Firm is occasional. It will probably amount to once every couple of months or so, though I would love for it to be more.

My Fuck Buddy, the Married Man and my FWB are all still out there and possibilities though I haven’t seen any of them for awhile now. The Pilot and I are on speaking terms again but not sure what will happen with that.
Sept. 2, 2013- It’s gone baby gone, the love is gone. The final end has come for the relationship between the guy I once called the “love of my life” and I. He really fucked me over by standing me up for a concert he invited me to. I am so done. Yeah, this is the guy I had the affair with . A 4 year relationship and many memories from our youth together, down the drain. Farewell to him…

August 10, 2013- I’m going to add Mr. Firm in as my newest Fuck Buddy/FWB. I’m pretty sure I’ll be seeing more of him soon. πŸ˜‰ He lives a few hours away and is in an open relationship with the mother of his child. They have an arrangement where they can only play with others when traveling so I won’t be seeing him often but now and again when he comes this way. He’s hot, athletic, great in bed and low drama, as far as I can see!

As of July 8, 2013, The Pilot made a quick wrong turn and crashed and burned. He’s flying solo now. :p

New Update: (June 29, 2013) The Pilot: I’ve got a new plaything and I like him a lot so far! The Pilot and I have had some fun times and great sex. He’s full of adventure and like the Energizer Bunny in the bedroom, lol. We’ve already had a blast at a swinger party and hopefully more to come in the future! He’s been really sweet and respectful and no complaints yet. He’s sexy and good looking and we seem to get along great. I’m going to have to watch my tendency to fall hard for this one. πŸ˜‰ Trying to keep it at a FWB for now. So far we haven’t been telling each other when we are playing with others, like the Professor and I did, and for me thus far that has been easier. He lives a few hours away but has been willing to pay for hotels and gas, which helps a lot.

Oh and: (June 30, 2013) The Producer: This guy was once a Grammy Award winning producer. He likes to show off a bit and let me know all about how wealthy he is. Seems like he would make a great Sugar Daddy. Working on it πŸ˜‰ So far he’s pretty into me though he says he doesn’t want emotions getting involved. I don’t think that will be an issue at all on my end. He travels a lot but is also driving through my city pretty frequently. I’m not quite as into him as vice versa but I think I could enjoy some pampering. πŸ˜‰ If I ever needed to become a gold-digger, the time is now! LOL
UPDATE: (May 30, 2013) The Professor is no longer my main squeeze, or even in my life but I’m leaving his info up anyhow so people will know who I am talking about. The Married Man is kinda dubious at the moment too (dangit) but I’ve not completely written him off.

The Professor: This is the main man in my life currently. He lives close by and we attend swinger parties together sometimes as a couple. We are not, however, technically, “a couple”. We communicate daily and have an emotional thing going on but we are both allowed to play with others. He has a married woman that he is emotionally involved with as well (her husband allows her to play, and to occasionally spend weekends with him). He also plays with other men’s wives occasionally in a swinger context. Sometimes the men are there watching, sometimes not. Currently, I’m the only “single” woman in his life and spend the most time with him. We go out on dates sometimes besides the swinger parties and we are supposed to tell one another any time we have sex with another person. It’s an “open relationship”. We’ve had group sex with some other people after our first swinger party and may do it again sometime too.

My Fuck Buddy: He and I see each other for sex maybe once or twice a month. There is no emotional attachment whatsoever, but we get along great and there is no drama. He has sex with whoever he wants to. Occasionally I hear a bit about it and he knows about the Professor. He lives in another town, about an hour and a half away.

The Married Man: This guy was supposed to be a one night stand but the sex was so good that it turned out to be more. He denied being married when we first met but has since admitted it and even asked me recently if I’d have a threesome with him and his wife. She doesn’t know about our involvement though, because she once caught him sexting me and he had to warn me not to answer phone calls. We really aren’t emotionally involved, though it’s hard to explain. The sex definitely sways me a bit, but it’s been awhile. Meanwhile, he claims he wants me to have his baby and that he will pay me to live in a house he has on the side and not have sex with other guys. I haven’t agreed to that one yet! LOL He’s asked me if I’d drop the Professor for him, but other times he seems cool with it and asks about the swinger parties. He’s really flaky and constantly hitting me up wanting me to meet at times that it would be very inconvenient, so it hasn’t happened lately. He lives a few hours away.

My FWB: This guy is awesome for just hanging out with and having some sex but he travels frequently and also lives a few hours away. He recently spent several months in another country but we did have sex when he got back. He likes to take me out when we are together and spend a little time doing non-sexual stuff too, so that’s why he gets the “friends with benefits” label. I really don’t know a lot about his sex life but he teases me about my “boyfriends” and I don’t deny it. He also has told me a bit about a woman he was involved with overseas and some of his exploits there, but we don’t go into a lot of detail. In any case I see him a few times a year.

The guy I had the affair with: In some of my other posts I refer to him as the Love of My Life. We had a very intense relationship for over 4 years, it lasted through a lot but has since tapered off. We still talk occasionally and I still feel like he is someone important to me but we aren’t like we used to be. We haven’t had sex or seen each other for a few months, though its still a likely possibility at some point. Emotionally we tend to be there for each other if need be and things pick up just like they’ve never changed, but around the time I met the Professor our involvement dwindled. I’d say it was mutual. When we do talk he tells me he misses me. We live a few hours away from each other as well.

There are some other interesting prospects that I haven’t slept with yet but I will update if we have sex, lol. From time to time I go out on dates with someone new and usually I will write about it if there is anything interesting to tell!

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