Well folks, it looks like things have come to a halt with the Producer. I was flaming mad for a few days and have finally calmed down a little bit. Spending the night with my fuck buddy last night seemed to help a lot. Gosh, I’d almost forgotten what a huge dick he has, lol. It’s super thick, on top of being 9 inches long. The Producer is always bragging about how thick HIS cock is (and it is) but after being with my fuck buddy again, well, it seems like it’s twice as wide.
Anyhow, we had a great night, with a few rounds of sex and cuddling up to watch a movie, naked on his couch. As predicted, he went raw with me for the first time. I don’t doubt that seeing that pic of me and the Producer, that he had gotten mad about because he wasn’t wearing a condom, had something to do with it. He still wore a condom for the first couple rounds but one broke and we ran out of Magnums and tried to use another one on him that I had but it was tight. He’s normally a real stickler about condoms, but we decided it would be okay for him to just pull out. We slept all snuggled up and had more great sex in the morning before I left. That’s also the first time, in almost a year and a half of seeing each other, that we have spent a full night together.
So back to the Producer. Remember how great things were going with us? At least that’s what I thought. He had kept saying how sprung he was with me, was texting me frequently, calling “just to hear my voice”, seeing me twice a week when he came through, kept talking about how he wanted to take me to Vegas and go to parties that are a few months down the road, bought me roses and took me out on my Birthday, was saying how I give the best head he’s ever had in his life and what wonderful sex we have, and had recently met a couple of my kids. He even bought us go-cart tickets that were like $250 worth of rides. I was really feeling confident that he was “into” me.
I had gotten sick for a couple of weeks but he was still calling and texting and all seemed well when he took off overseas. He had been in touch ever since, on Whatsapp, sexting and telling me about his trip.
So imagine my surprise when he suddenly, out of the blue, messages me on there to drop the bomb. He’s found a new woman, that he met on Match.com two weeks ago and they are developing “feelings” for each other. He doesn’t want to drop me however, but to “include” me with the two of them, because “isn’t this crazy” she is bi and believes in an open relationship.
Um, excuse me? WHAT THE FUCK?! I was totally blindsided!! I’ve been seeing him for months and I’M the one that needs to be “included” like a little side piece? Because he is developing feelings that apparently he never had for me? WOW!!
I was FLOORED!! OUCH! 😦 😦 😦 He approached it like it was some important thing he had to tell me and was like “I understand if you never want to talk to me again”. I said “so I got sick and you found someone else and now you want me to settle with second place….yeah, fuck off”. He said okay and a few hours later sent me some bullshit poem about a “Ride or Die Chick”. I told him “go fuck yourself” and he laughed then said okay he would consider himself deleted.
He said I was being hostile and that he had always treated me with respect and never treated me second class and that he had told this woman all about me. He said he really talked me up and that he told her how much respect he had for me and my kids and that he had to include me in his life. He added that we had always “gone beyond the friends situation” and that he wanted to continue to do so.
I told him there was nothing respectful about asking me to take a backseat because he fell in love with someone and to please never contact me again. He started getting mad and said I was acting like a bitch. He commented that I have all these men “on the side” so what am I talking about? I was like “whatever, I never asked you to take a backseat to anyone, I don’t treat people that way. I’ve also never called you out of your name. I’m done, goodbye and good riddance”.
He responded by telling me it was my fucking loss, that I am wack and left a voice message again saying I was acting like a bitch and telling me to fuck off. Then he blocked (and later unblocked) me on Whatsapp. I decided to block him after that and haven’t talked with him since.
My blood was boiling for a few days there. I mean, he has some fucking NERVE trying to get me to hang around for scraps after he has decided he prefers someone else. Add that I had told him a little bit about what happened with the married woman and the Professor and it was just adding insult to injury. Unbelievable.
There is no way in HELL I want to put myself in a position where I am having to compete with another woman like that again. I didn’t sign up to be the jumpoff. They can both go jump off a fucking cliff!!
After calming down a little bit, I can see that if he’d approached me differently I might not have been so upset, but it’s still not a position I want to be in. Clearly he was envisioning bi threesomes and all kinds of fun, but um, I’ve TOLD him my big fear about threesomes with another woman is being left out. How the heck would I feel being the unloved one in the group. NO THANKS! 😦
What’s crazy is the day before he was going on about how I give the best head he’s ever had in his life and asking me to rate his sexual performance. He said he wanted to be my number 1 and how close was he? “Be honest”. I finally said “you’re in the top ten” and he wasn’t satisfied with that. So I was like well, probably the top 5. (Reasoning that the Married man, then Mr Firm, then the Professor, followed by a tie between the Pilot and the Fuck Buddy might get him there). He still wasn’t liking it and I said that wasn’t fair because I don’t ask him to rate me. So he claimed I am his #1 head giver and #3 otherwise. I was like “only #3?” and he said that was because there was a 3 way tie and if he ranked alphabetically. Yeah, whatever…. but I think it’s kind of fucked up that if he likes the sex that much he would try and fuck it up by announcing that he was in love with some bitch he has known for all of TWO WEEKS??? How do you fall “in love” that fast anyway?
I don’t know but I am kind of in an emotional mess over it. It seems like the minute I dropped my guard and started to let him in, he turned on me! That seems to happen far too frequently with men. 😦 Makes me think none of them are trustworthy at all. It’s like the minute you start to let them know you actually like them they decide it’s time to stick a knife in your back. Fuck him! Or rather not, I don’t know that I could ever go there again, I feel so disrespected. He wants to make ME the secondary? Really? To some woman he just met?? Isn’t that backwards???? Shouldn’t he be putting ME first? What’s messed up is I thought I was doing everything right, never causing drama, giving great blowjobs, trying to keep it all positive and my reward is getting knocked to the side….nice.
I am so fucking offended it is hard to get over it. Thank God for my Fuck Buddy or I think I’d hate all men right now. He is my lifesaver. 🙂