Big black men… is it true?

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First of all, beware that this is a racially charged topic. I think it’s important to realize that ALL people, whether we are black, white, or whatever hold some stereotypes in our minds and sometimes there is a grain of truth behind them but that DOESN’T mean we can make blanket assumptions about EVERY person that belongs to that group. You just can’t, because even if a stereotype holds somewhat true there are always exceptions to the rule. I also hope we can discuss this like mature adults without insults towards any group of people. With that said, come on, let’s drop the worries about being politically correct too. If we can’t be open and discuss varying experiences then it actually BREEDS racism because being afraid to TALK about things from different viewpoints is what keeps folks in the dark and leaves them to their wild imaginations, reinforcing negative ideas, fear, and hatred of others.

Also, realize that although I am white myself I grew up in a home where I was the only all white kid and I am used to what might sometimes seem like wildly inappropriate jokes about “white people” and “black people”, lol. So forgive me if sometimes I seem like I’m doing the very thing I am preaching against! Haha… I’m not really a racist at all and in fact it is one of my pet peeves although some of the stuff I say in this blog might come across as otherwise to people who don’t understand where I am coming from.

Okay, done with the lecture, let’s get to the real topic at hand and the question everyone everywhere has been dying to know and hear about from a female who has had the opportunity to make some assessments, lol. 😉

DO BLACK MEN REALLY HAVE BIGGER DICKS???

The other day, at the last swinger party I attended with the Professor, we were standing in a room watching some people have sex when a typical country- boy white guy walked into the room and made a typically clueless statement and assumption about the Professor and the only other black man there. He was like “you guys are lucky because you have the big dicks” and started going on about how unfair it was that black men always have huge cocks. Of course this was said without having ever SEEN either of these men naked. How would he know that either one of them was sporting a huge package? He didn’t! But he thought he did because of all the “rumors” that this is true and due to who knows how much porn he has seen where black men with large penises are fetishized.

Now besides porn, there is the added practice in the swinger community of bringing black men in to have sex with white couples in a fantasy/fetish way that honestly creeps me the fuck out because it comes across as flat out racist. They call the guys “bulls” and “studs” and even have these parties that I have heard referred to as “mandingo” parties where they bring in black men to have sex with guys wives in order to feed into cuckhold fantasies and fetishes. Now, I’m not one to judge people for their fantasies, I just find it disturbing because the focus seems to be on the skin color of the participants and because of the attitudes of some of these white couples that any random black guy with a big cock will do.

It bothers me very much when I think of these men being objectified like that. However, they obviously don’t mind or they wouldn’t be doing it! And of course they get lots of sex out of the deal and what man doesn’t like that? So it is easy to see why the practice continues and not too many people are complaining. I mean, this is an activity where consenting adults are agreeing to do something so that is really their business. I once recently even saw a swinger party advertised as a “BBC Party” in a nearby city, and it was taking place in a predominately black area. Having a big, black, cock is definitely sort of a “novelty” thing for some.

I have had the opportunity to talk to a few guys who have been involved in this sort of exchange and it is interesting to say the least. Sometimes they seem to get off on the idea too, of course, though some guys, like the Professor, seem to find it odd as well and feel a little uncomfortable with it but go right ahead and fuck the women anyway. He has said he’s not really into the gangbang thing however.

I’ve known a few different black men that have told me white couples have actually PAID them to fuck the wife. One guy told me a man paid him to have sex with his fiancé while he watched and another guy mentioned having sex with a woman that he wasn’t very attracted to simply because her husband gave him $500 dollars. He said it wasn’t that bad and she wasn’t bad in bed even though she was kinda fat and ugly. Nice. I can see how this would be appealing to a lot of black men, especially those who aren’t doing well financially. I guess it’s sort of like women who have a sugar daddy, sometimes. These couples are taking them out on their boats and on vacations and giving them all kinds of privileges just to have sex with the wife. Again, they are doing this of their own choosing but it still seems exploitative.

So anyway, back to the question at hand. Do black guys REALLY have bigger cocks to begin with?? Or is this a myth? The Professor asked my opinion, kind of indirectly, after the conversation the other day at the swinger party. He was like “you’ve seen a lot”, which is true, though he doesn’t know my actual numbers. I gave him kind of a pat answer about it “not necessarily” being the case, though maybe on average they are a little bigger, which is true, but I didn’t want to delve into too much detail because I’m pretty sure he didn’t want to hear about other guys dicks that I have had sex with. I also thought it a conversation better not gone into over text because things can be misunderstood and misconstrued and he has shown some uneasiness at my past exploits before. SO, I focused more on being appreciative of his (rather well) endowment and you guys get to hear my thoughts on the matter instead! For now, lol, lucky you!! Maybe I will tell him more later if we are still talking.

I have personally slept with a lot more black men than white, so it’s not really a fair sample but I’ve done both. I’ve also ONCE had sex with an Asian guy, who was averagely endowed, maybe 6 inches, and a couple of Hispanic dudes who were both punching in at around 6.5-7. That’s all I’m gonna say about that because that’s really all I’ve seen, lol. I have also seen quite a few black and white penises that I haven’t ACTUALLY slept with, like guys I have given blow jobs to or a hand job at some point. Oh, and there was a guy that was a mix of Jamaican, Hawaiian, Japanese and white that I have messed with but we never had actual sex. Lucky him, he had it from all sides, lol, and I’d estimate him to be about 7.

Keep in mind though that I kind of suck at estimating things!! I may be hugely over or under estimating EVERYONE, who knows?? Once a girl and I who had slept with several of the SAME GUYS got into a discussion about dick size and one guy I thought was HUGE she thought was small. WTF? I was thinking he had like a 9 inch cock and she was like “are you kidding me?” I also thought he was GREAT in bed and he was my absolute favorite at the time, but she thought he sucked. Just goes to show how much sexual chemistry between two people matters and makes all the difference. If a woman thinks you are great in bed she probably also thinks you have THE BEST COCK EVER at the time! I know that is how I am anyway. Sometimes we even overestimate how big you are, like when we like you our emotions so color our view that it makes your cock grow in our head, lol. I also don’t consider myself a “size queen” because I am more interested in how he uses it than what he is sporting. It’s not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean and all that. Still, my two current favorites in the sack both claim to be about 8 inches, and the Professor has commented that I “really like it deep”, so maybe I do like them kind of big. Hmmmm….

On that note, I will mention that I personally think there is such a thing as TOO BIG. The biggest guy I ever had sex with was 11 ¼ inches. HUGE, and I know his exact size only because OTHER guys were telling me that. They were all so jealous but they really needn’t be. He couldn’t even get it in all the way and it was awkward for him to maneuver and hurting me and the sex wasn’t all that good at all. I’d consider a cock that big something of a handicap, to be honest. He was biracial by the way, so no telling if he got that giant dick from the white side or the black, though I’m sure most in our society would assume the latter. I also slept with a guy once that had probably the shortest cock I have ever seen, maybe 4 inches, but it was so freaking wide I could barely get on it. It was like the width of a coke can, for real, and it made me tear and bleed and was so unpleasant that I never slept with him again. He was black.

Personal experience though, from a woman who has had sex with over 40 black men and at least 10 white guys and seen quite a few more, would say that on average the white guys ranged from maybe 5.5-8 inches and the black men were more like 6.5-9. So yes, slightly bigger. Still not a HUGE difference and really it correlates with the studies you will see on the subject.

When I was younger I had only heard the black men are bigger theory from black guys and I thought they were full of shit and just basically tooting their own horns. I didn’t believe there was any actual basis in fact. Even now, I have seen a couple of pretty big white guys so it does happen. I have also seen plenty of black guys that were in the 6-7 range and I’d even go so far as to say that is “most”. What kills me is that often black men who are a very nice sized will sometimes say they are “average” because there is this expectation that they are supposed to be HUGE. I also once had an encounter with a black guy that I couldn’t tell you whether or not was actual sex. It was dark and I was drunk and he put what felt like a finger inside of me and later claimed we had had sex to others. If we did then he had the smallest dick I’ve ever experienced and if that is the case I can only imagine how that might make him feel with all these high expectations.

Nowadays I hear a lot of white guys making the claim that “all black guys are huge”. I guess this is said out of jealousy to some extent but it’s also an unfair assumption to make. A lot of black men are just “normal” or maybe slightly bigger than average and there are even some out there that are on the small side. Not all white guys are average sized either, there are a few that are pretty darn big! That said I have been with a fair amount of black men that are in the 8-9 inch range. Maybe 15? I seem to be coming across it more lately and that probably has some to do with the fact that I have met guys off the swinger site (which attracts bigger black guys) and places like Craigslist where they are advertising that fact (like the married man I sleep with). Still my current fwb is pretty darn big too and I met him on OKCupid. It might appear that I am choosing guys based on their dick size, lol, or even on their skin color, but that’s honestly not it. I am attracted to certain traits like confidence and dominance and I think men with larger sized cocks seem to come by those more easily sometimes. It’s probably due to their self –perception, because men tie up their own worth into their cocks more so than I think women do. Also, my penchant for black men is really probably more a product of having grown up around more people of color than white folks and just feeling safer and more comfortable talking to them. It’s not a “fetish”.

Anyway, in conclusion, you can’t judge a cock by it’s cover. Don’t assume until you’ve seen him take off those pants that you know what he’s packing. I’ve also heard the myth that short guys have shorter dicks and that I can assure you is NOT the case. Most of the guys I have been with recently that are sporting 8-9 inches below the belt aren’t much taller than me (5’6”). There are all kinds of body shapes and cock sizes and I rarely meet a cock I don’t like ;). If I like the GUY I’m probably gonna fall in love with his cock too.

So don’t be so quick to stereotype. Yes there are probably more black men with bigger sized dicks than there are white guys overall, but that doesn’t speak to ALL. Yes, at the first swinger party where we had a six-some with two white couples the Professor was clearly bigger than both of the other guys but that again was an isolated case. I’m no mathematician but it’s probably SOMEWHAT more likely to be that way but, like everything else in life not a guarantee. The only thing I can guarantee you about black men is that they are all stubborn and bullheaded as hell if you get into an argument and you will never win. I’m kidding… 😉 Kind of…. (try and prove me wrong!! LMAO!!)

45 thoughts on “Big black men… is it true?

  1. I’m Black do you know I’ve heard this one all of my life. I’m also aware of folks with Mandingo syndrome and, yes, me and my lady are often offended because our color is the only reason for a white couple’s interest. I’ve also had people reject us because I’m Black, the excuse here being “She doesn’t go for Black men…”

    Are we all hung? Nope. Is the stereotype unwarranted? Um, no, because some of us are, uh, well-endowed. Does this mean we’re all sex gods? Hardly. Does it mean anything? I would think not since I personally know some nicely hung white guys. I don’t believe that size matters – and neithet should anyone else; trust a man’s skill first and foremost. Without that, a big dick is worthless.

    • Exactly! It’s really NOT the size that makes the biggest difference in my experience. It’s a combination of skill and chemistry. Sexual chemistry is so hard to describe but I know it when I feel it!

      The mandingo thing is just disturbing on so many levels but so are a lot of other fetishes I guess. It’s just that, like you say, it can get offensive to those who don’t share the fetish with them and don’t want to be approached solely due to skin color. I get that there are a lot of people who have never experienced interracial sex and think that it is a big deal to try it the first time, but the mandingo thing is way beyond that and makes me uneasy. I’ve been approached by black men in the swinger community telling me that they will be my “bull” and really find it to be a turnoff because I am not like that and have no desire to treat a guy that way.

      The professor has had a lot of people reject him due to being black as well. It’s amazing to me that anyone can make their decisions based just on that. I think sometimes it’s the guy that doesn’t like the idea of his wife sleeping with a black man, maybe insecurity about “the myth”. When we played with two white couples in a six-some, one of the women avoided the Professor and he thought maybe she didn’t like black guys but I later looked at their profile on the swinger site and saw that they stated she doesn’t play with men who have dicks larger than her husband (supposedly her choice not his). I thought that was kind of odd but the husband had also told us she was a virgin before marrying him and they had only been soft-swap swinging with other females until recently. Maybe it was just fear of a large cock, lol.

      Around here the swinger scene seems to be predominately white and it is a white area in general so I have yet to see a black woman involved and have wondered what their experience would be like.

      • I know a lot of white folks who believe the saying, “Once you go Black, you never go back!” I can understand that it can be scary and intimidating – and more so if you believe the hype. What I have found in the life that a lot of white men do not want their wives sleeping with a Black guy, not because of the size of his dick but because of the passion some of us brothas can bring to the table… and she won’t like sex with him afterward – and I understand it even if I think it’s a dumb way to behave because, really, if you lose your woman to another man, it’s because you weren’t able to keep her… and then you put her in a position to be taken away!

        Anyway, while people in the life say they don’t discriminate, well, they do. It’s not everyone, of course but if you wanna have some fun, go to your site of choice, go on the forum, and say that you love having sex with Black men and that it’s the best sex you’ve ever had – and then sit back and watch the responses you get; you might be amazed.

      • Oh believe me, I know! I’ve been given hell from both sides, though, haha. When I first started dating my ex husband (who was white) the black guys back home gave me a real hard time about it. They were making fun of him, his name and just his general whiteness and telling me that I’d “be back” because “once you go black….” and all the black females in the room were giving THEM a hard time about “how are you gonna tell her she can’t date a white dude when she’s white?! You act like she’s black or something, she can date whoever she wants”, etc. Hilarious.

        I’ve also had white guys make comments about how come I don’t date white guys, making an assumption that isn’t even true. They thought because I had dated black guys it meant I would never date them, I guess based on the saying.

        Now I’m not gonna lie….the best sex I have ever had HAS been with black men, lol, BUT I have also been with black dudes that totally sucked in bed, so whatever. Plus I’ve been with a couple of white guys that were pretty good too. I agree that SOME black men are exceptional in the passion they express in the bedroom and that is something I seek out and I tend to go for black guys for a myriad of reasons but I don’t doubt that there are some white guys out there that could be the same way. It’s not due to the skin color so much as the individual.

    • I been with white girls who told me that the black men they slept with had small ones like 6-7 now I been wiith every race of women except a japanese and a chinese girl and I can tell you that 50% of th eblack girls I had sex with told me they dont date black guys they dont like them
      and they also told me I had a big package 8.5 for me I dont understand how people can be so stupid. I think what you are talking about sounds like a bunch of butt hurt white women and other people that are trying to piss off the white man, I am white btw just saying what it seems like. another thing I checked on the internet just now and I see white man has the largest penis
      ? and actually the top 5 are liek white people ? so may be black people just trying to gain some reputation and white people already have had the best reputations thus far so we dont mind letting other black people think they are the shit for a little while. even if this is a mislead behavior. I dont think I owe black people anything because im white and I am sick of all the dumb fucking white people that act like this. Black people have enslaved other races. The JEWS had it worse off than the black people who were slaves? White people let the black slaves live didnt they? well hitler wouldent he killed so many whites and would have done so to everyone else also. Goes to show you there are good and bad of every race and this goes for body size also I mean I seen white guys with 11 inch cocks and black dudes with at least a 10 inch cock
      (Link edited out by Lovergirl-sorry my computer says it’s unsafe and I don’t want my readers to get viruses)

      some John Falcon name poped up also but I havent seen a pic of his penis yet to confirm

      but this dude named john holmes was white and he had a 13 inch cock and that was confirmed

      sorry I kinda go off on tangents when i talk or type
      have a nice life people try not to fight we all human

      • See, 6-7 inches is not “small”. Its actually a bit above average if you go by statistics and of course there are plenty of black and white men in that category.

        You obviously know different black girls than I do. Or you just associate more with ones who are willing to date white men (which makes sense if you are a white man that dates black women). 8.5 is large, for any race, I agree.

        I am not trying to piss off white guys, lol. I don’t want to get into a big long discussion about slavery and who had it the worst though, because that would get pretty far off topic for this post.

        Yes there are some guys out there with huge dicks that are white. The Producer showed me a news story about some guy who got stopped in an airport because they thought he was armed and it turned out to be the guy’s dick. He was packing something like 13 inches. He was a really boring, average looking white guy, lol.

        From personal observation I have seen MORE black men with “above average” packages…meaning 7-9 inches…and white guys were more like 6-8. Really not a huge difference. The smallest guy I have ever been with was AFTER I wrote this post and he was a 6 foot tall black man. You just can’t always tell a book by its cover.

  2. I haven’t commented on your blog before, but have been enjoying reading it lately. Not sure why, since I am not into any of the “stuff” you write about, (NOT judging!) but I do like reading! As a “white girl” who grew up in what I would describe as an all white small country town (you know the type of town I’m talking about, without labeling) I actually have found that my attraction is really mostly toward black men. Now, I married a white guy, but prior to him, I was IN LOVE with a mixed guy who was amazing in bed. He also always made me feel really good about my body. For me, I think that my preference comes from the fact that almost any black man I have ever dated (and I haven’t dated or slept with many) has always been very accepting and complimentary of my body. They have also been really relaxed about sex, and not all “grossed out” about things that a lot of white guys seem to be. (I should add that I am 5’6″ and 120lbs, so not heavy, by a long shot) But, I have found, in MY experience, that most of the white guys I’ve been with (husband included) made me feel unattractive and even “fat”. So for ME, I have more confidence when I’m with a black man or a mixed guy probably b/c I feel okay about myself! That being said, with age, I’ve chosen and learned to finally feel okay about myself PERIOD, but back in the day, I didn’t.

    As far as my opinion, I do still think that black guys are bigger. But maybe it is b/c I was able to relax and enjoy it more and therefore the sex seemed better? And I am still hung up on and seeing, the first guy I talked about. I still see him, even though he is married and always has been (which was the reason I ended things years ago when I was younger….I wanted the “dream” back then). So now, while I love him, I wonder sometimes if part of the reason isn’t because of how he has always made me feel, both in bed and about myself. He was the FIRST guy who ever made me feel sexy and that obviously stuck with me, so I don’t know.

    As for your blog, I have to say that the ease in which you find partners, stunned me at first! LOL! While I do not have the courage (or desire, currently) to find another partner, some of what you have written, has described, to a T, my sexual experience with the Married guy. It actually caused me to pause, and wonder if maybe, there wasn’t someone else out there, who is available, who I could feel the same about and have that kind of connection with. (and at first, I really thought the professor was MY married man, b/c of several of the things you mentioned about him…but it’s not! No worries!) So anyway. Thanks for the discussion and for opening up my eyes a bit….b/c while I don’t want “the dream” anymore (marriage, kids, house) I DO still want my MM all to myself.

    Anyway, I’ve enjoyed reading your blog and hope to keep reading….so please, keep writing!

    • I’m so glad you enjoy reading my blog! 🙂 And your comments are very interesting. I will say that my experience with black men in bed has been similar when you talk about how they make you feel good about your body. For some reason a lot of white guys seem really critical. It’s not necessarily a spoken thing, and really it’s likely that they are just more “reserved” about expressing themselves and as women we are so sensitive about our bodies that we assume they are not thinking we are sexy enough. I think there is some truth to the stereotype of white people being more reserved in general and it is a cultural thing I guess. Expressing emotion seems to be more acceptable in the black community than the white and you can see the difference when you go into a typical white church compared to a black church. Since sex is an expression of emotion I think it comes easier to those who have been taught that it is okay! Black men are also often more complimentary and that is probably also due to having been taught that is the way you treat women. There are white guys that act that way too but I see it less often, it’s probably more common in the South but a lot of southern white boys also are churchy and have hang ups about sex and are ultra conservative.

      As for finding partners…as a female it is ridiculously easy online, lol. I have found that in the past couple years since my divorce. I just let bunches of guys respond to me and only hit back those that I see as the cream of the crop that have contacted me. For guys I hear its really difficult and they have to deal with a lot of women ignoring or rejecting them because the competition is so high. I’ve heard it’s like 500 men to every female online. Crazy! I’ve still met some real weirdo’s but I’ve met some that I am pretty happy with too.

      That’s funny that the Professor reminded you of your married man. He’s definitely single and divorced, lol, but it’s funny because when you describe your relationship it reminds me a bit of the guy I had an affair with. He’s not mixed (he’s black too) but I wrote about him a bit in the post called “Confessions of a Cheater”. 🙂

  3. Thanks for responding to my comment! Your other commenter, KDaddy is absolutely correct (in my case at least) that after being with my MM again this time (I was not married before, when we were together years ago) I CANNOT have sex with my husband. I just can’t do it. I tried one time (on a break from the MM relationship, as I always felt I was “cheating” on my MM…that’s messed up, but true) and afterward, I literally left the room and cried. I missed MM’s touch so much and the intimacy that WE shared. I have told my husband that I will never have sex with him again and that he is free to do whatever he wishes. But, he is so “black and white” (no pun intended!) that he would honestly rather live in a loveless and sexless marriage and NOT CHEAT (since that would be WRONG) than to suffer the embarrassment of being divorced and of having “failed”. Never mind that the emotional abuse I have suffered at his hands is also “wrong” he is just that uptight. And as KDaddy says, the passion I have with MM is like no other. Honestly, I have never been more intimate than with him. I’ve been married over 10 years and cannot remember looking into my husband’s eyes ONE time, during sex. With MM, it is easy now. And THAT cannot be replaced. So no. I can’t go back. And whenever I am out with friends, the only guys I tend to want to talk to or look for (just to talk to) are pretty much black or mixed. In my case, I think that in some weird way, I think that since I can’t have MM right now, then maybe, if I let him go and move on, I will find the SAME passion and acceptance from another black or mixed man. Trust me, I can see the messed up psychology behind this…but it is what it is, for now.

    As for your married lover, I ALSO “made sure” (LOL!) that he was not my MM either! But the details didn’t fit! I don’t “think” my MM would be involved in more casual “affairs” and believe what he tells me about “us” (LONG story) to be the truth. BUT….I am also not naive. So I DID read with great interest, all about your married lover as well!

    As for meeting men, you know, I’m just too scared to try and do it online like that. I am afraid of meeting the one “killer” of the evening and of course right now, I am totally committed to and devoted to my MM. BUT….if I were ever not, and I wanted to find someone to be friends with benefits, I guess it’s nice to know that it is supposedly easier for women to do so. That being said, I just can’t see myself going there. While I love sex with MM, unless I’m with HIM, I can actually go without it. It’s not fun, but I just don’t want anyone else.

    • I so identify with how you are feeling. When I had an affair I was very much the same way. After sleeping with my MM the first time (not technically the first time because like you I had known him and had sex with him before I ever got married, but the first time in our affair) I went back home and had sex with my husband and it was the worst feeling ever. I felt violated and like I was being raped (even though I wasn’t, I went along with it to keep up the image and cover up that I was cheating). His touch made my skin crawl. I was so in love with the MM that I couldn’t stand another man, much less the husband that had been emotionally abusive, touching me. I cried afterwards too. :/

      It was the affair that brought to light the fact that he HAD been emotionally abusive to me though because before I’d been in denial. So even though my ex husband was white and my MM was black I don’t really see it as a color issue so much. My first two sex partners after the divorce were both white and the first one was pretty darn good in bed, but I never developed a relationship with either of them. I’ve found relationships with black men to come much more easily to me and I’m not sure whether it’s because that is what I am most comfortable with or because black men in general tend to be more emotionally expressive and I need that.

      I didn’t want anyone else after the guy I had an affair with for a long time either. Still HE was sleeping with other women and I knew he’d never stop and I had to do something to counteract it or I’d end up getting really hurt. Funny thing is now we’ve pretty much dropped off each other completely. I still care about him and still consider him a friend and we’d even probably still have sex but the relationship part has faded away and did around the time I met the Professor. I slept with him once around Thanksgiving and it just wasn’t the same. Still as far as passion goes, for awhile we really had that. It was over 4 years of what we both needed at the time.

  4. I didn’t realize that you had EA (emotional abuse) in your marriage? I must have missed that, or maybe I got more caught up in the details of your current life! Anyway, you are so right about how you almost don’t even realize it, until you do something….like have an affair, in our cases, that allows you to see the relationship through new eyes.

    I knew for years that something was missing or wrong with my marriage. I just always believed it was MY fault or because of something I did or was doing wrong. He was always sure to point that out. I knew I was not feeling right about things and just really assumed that this was what “they” (whoever they are) meant when they said that marriage was “hard work”. I knew I was not wanting to have sex and didn’t even want my husband to touch me. Even a hug. I also know NOW that it was because I had put up a wall very early in the marriage to protect myself from his abuse. That being said, I even thought that I was fine not being touched, not having sex and just basically, getting by. I assumed we would get out of the rut eventually, but didn’t know or care when. I just planned, I guess, to stay like this…forever. Which is really surprising and sad, b/c I had always been happy and loving and quite a romantic, in my mind. I can’t believe that having been such a confident (not in an in your face kind of way) person, that I had allowed his words to turn me into a shell of my former self.

    Anyway, something happened in my life that was very traumatic for me. And my husband was an ass to me about it. He was not supportive and belittled my feelings and I remember that right THEN, I was DONE. The last little bit of love or hope I had for him, was gone. I started my affair about a month later and NEVER felt guilty. I was afraid of getting caught, of course, b/c I had never truly lied about anything this big. But guilt? None. And with my MM, I knew that the chemistry would still be there and it was. I didn’t even intend to KEEP seeing MM, but he contacted ME again about 2-3 weeks after seeing each other. (we hadn’t seen each other in almost 10 years) and after that, we were in a full blown relationship, complete with emotional attachment. During that time, I slowly realized that I DID want and NEED sex, touch, validation, compassion, companionship….a friend, someone in my corner and who made me feel loved. It opened my eyes to what I was missing and I was SHOCKED to think that I had thought that not having any of that for the rest of my life was okay.

    I apologize for going on and on in your GB, and you are more than welcome to delete this chatter, but when I read your last comment to me, I could relate to exactly what you said. Even though the situation I am in is less than ideal, and even though I have some very real and nagging concerns as to how the future will play out (I am not one who is asking him to leave today and to have a life with me, however, the assumption is that one day, we will be together…..but now is not the time for either of us, just for practical reasons….although that is a very thin line as well. Sigh.) I am happy that I have finally realized that I DO want, need and deserve much more than I was giving myself credit for. So, anyway.

    Thanks again for the response. Looking forward to hearing about your next adventure and what happens with The Professor. I really liked the sound and dynamic of your relationship (overall), but also understand why you feel the way you do. I might just want to ask you some questions along the way, if you don’t mind, in regard to little things here or there, if I ever want to maybe test the waters, in the way of “meeting someone”. You seem to have it down pretty good and I feel like you have been where I am, in some ways. You are lucky to be free. I’m just waiting patiently and counting the days…..

    • Yes. My ex husband was emotionally abusive but I don’t talk about it much because, like I said, I was so in denial and like you I blamed myself. Even the marriage counselors we eventually went to had to point it out to me and they felt that I didn’t recognize it because I was so used to abuse as a child that I simply accepted it as normal behavior and assumed everything was my fault.

      My ex husband also had a seemingly very passive personality so it was more difficult to spot but he was extremely critical, rejecting, neglecting, unsupportive, blaming, you name it. He also isolated me from friends and family, using religious reasons as a way to control. He effectively shot down my every hope and dream by telling me that’s not what “God” wanted and “God” had called him into ministry and that was our sole purpose in life and I was supposed to support him, etc. I read through the book “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men” by Lundy Bancroft after the divorce and highlighted page after page of behaviors that were exactly like him and the things he said and did. He even told me once that the reason he wouldn’t sleep with me was because I was “ugly”. I’m not ugly at all, or at least most men don’t seem to think so, but he knew I was sensitive and hit where it hurt.

      Also, something similar happened to me in that I had a major traumatic event in my life (my mom tried to commit suicide and almost died and I had to take care of things with her and for her) and my ex was so unsupportive and hurtful during that time that I really started to shut out hope. It was several months later that I began an emotional affair that eventually turned sexual. My affair was also with someone I hadn’t seen in over a decade.

      I don’t mind you commenting about your story at all! I find it very interesting and it much parallels my own. I was bound and determined to stay for the sake of my children, but eventually we ended up getting divorced, when my ex fell for someone else. It was actually kind of relief. I’m not going to sugar coat and say it has been easy since then but I never have wished we were still married. My kids are having a rough time adjusting to their father’s abandonment of them but I’ve realized it wouldn’t have been much better if we stayed married. He was emotionally uninvolved anyway and now he’s just showing his true colors. He’s turned into quite the deadbeat dad.

      I don’t mind questions at all! And if you want to talk more privately my email is lifeofalovergirl@yahoo.com. I enjoy my relationship with the Professor very much and hope we can get it all worked out. I really do believe his REASON was to avoid hurting me but it is still hard to take.

  5. Thanks for this interesting read. You shared your thoughts on my blog the other day, but this expands what you were saying, and it’s great to read from a woman who has plenty of experience to know what she’s talking about and candid enough to be honest…It helps that we’re not sleeping with you, so you don’t have to worry about judgement, lol!
    I’ve never had the chance to be with anyone of another race, although I’d like to at some point. I’ve seen plenty of “amatuer” porn from folks showing off what they are up to, and there are plenty of black men with big dicks, but I have seen a few photos with rather average equipment.

    On CL, “BBC” is definitely a commodity that is much sought after. I know you’re offended by the racial overtone of it. I never quite thought about it as offensive, but I can see how you would. Beyond dick size, there seems to be some mystique about black men being more potent, powerful or animalistic. It definitely seems to center on the cuckold end of the spectrum, with men having fantasies about their wives/women being taken by these men. Oddly enough, you see LESS advertising for BBC on CL in the m4m section. Strange really.

    I work in a black community, and have come to know a wide variety of black people. I have been fascinated with the different attitude of black men toward sex and women. Two men in particular I used to work with were the most macho, aggressive guys I’ve ever seen. They would essentially (by my opinion) sexually harass any woman they saw. Certainly not ALL black men are like that, but all the ones that I’ve worked with have been.

    While one the subject, one thing I’ve found fascinating in the last five years is the explosion of interracial dating. When I was a kid, and really until the last 6 or so years, my perception was largely that it was a status symbol for the black man to be dating a white woman. It always appeared to me that the white women took on more of the style etc of the black culture in terms of dress, and deportment. Now it seems like ordinary white girls are going out of their way to seek black partners. In the current version of the situation, it seems more like the guys take on the dress and deportment of their white girlfriends. I’m sorry if that sounds racist or stereotypical. It’s not meant to be, just my observation/opinion.

    • Thank you for another interesting perspective. I’m trying to pinpoint the difference between advertising BBC on Craigslist or asking for some and these couples that do Mandingo parties and it’s hard to define but it does seem less exploitative. If I meet a guy off Craigslist that is announcing his well endowment and the fact that he is black, it doesn’t bother me at all. In fact I have responded to ads just like that. At that level it’s still about the individual though and not assuming every black man out there fits the BBC profile or wants to be a “bull” for some couple who is using them ONLY for that fact or that just any random guy will do so long as he’s black.

      Hmmm…I’ll have to think about that more. I also am not super fond of the “bbc” stuff but I guess I’ve gotten more used to that. I think what bugs me is the lack of respect for the man as an individual that is more than the sum of his parts….er “part”…lol. If I personally meet someone who is saying here I am with some BBC, I am going to need to see and know a little more before sleeping with him but I realize that is a preference maybe not everyone has.

      I think it is true that there are a lot of black men out there who are more aggressive about approaching women. 9 times out of 10 when a man hits on me on public he is black and I live in a very white area. However, I am one who actually appreciates some directness more than the indirect just trying to be friendly or saying nothing at all. I’m pretty shy about approaching anyone myself to be honest and just don’t walk up to random men and say anything so it’s nice when they make their intentions clear. Back in the day though, when I was a teenager and would go to clubs (that were often predominately black) the usual approach from guys was to get in your face and ask “can I hit it?” LMAO. I always wondered if there were seriously any females that would answer yes to that but hey, it must have worked some of the time!!

      I wonder if the difference you say you notice in interracial dating has more to do with the fact that in more recent years a lot of black folks are doing better for themselves financially and have moved their way up out of the poorer black neighborhoods that used to be the norm. I see a lot of this in my hometown. I lived on the East Side which was mostly black and other minorities, and still is, but back then the other side of town was almost exclusively “white”. Nowadays when I go back to visit I see a lot more integration and I am happy to see a lot of the people I grew up with doing better for themselves, living in nicer neighborhoods, more educated than their parents were and making a better life for their children. Sure there are a fair share in prison or dead too but a lot of people have made an effort to move up out of that environment.

      Also, interracial dating has become more acceptable than it once was. Back in the day a lot of people hid their relationships so the only black/white couples you were seeing were in the ghetto. That’s where you get these white girls who act all hood. Funny I never felt the need to be that way. Anyhow, with more black folks living in middle and upper class areas you see more similar behavior. I don’t think it’s necessarily an adaption to who they are dating. Middle class, educated white girls are dating middle class, educated black men and they are on the same level so act more similar. Middle class, educated black men who are dating middle class, educated black women are going to be the same way. Repeat with upper class people. Poor folks, whether black or white or whatever, and those with less education tend to put less focus on putting forth an “image” to the public.

      • I get your point about black people doing better for themselves. I think that’s true across the nation. However, living here in the northeast, the black population is very much still segregated, and on the whole not as affluent as other parts of the country. So in many ways, it seems like these women, and its all women of a certain age (20-35) are going out of their way to find them. Additionally since I work in a poor black neighborhood, I’ve seen more white women then I’ve EVER seen in the last 6 months or so, who appear to have moved into project type housing with their men.
        The whole BBC thing is rather dehumanizing and degrading…kinda like we do to women…treating them as sex objects. I wasn’t really aware that stuff happened like you described, but it only partly surprises me. I don’t think it’s actively racist at all, I think it is a whole pile of stereotypes all collected into one messy package. I don’t think advertising on CL for BBC is any different though than looking for a fem, or a latina or someone into feet etc. Mandingo parties though…that’s a whole different thing.

  6. Gawd, there are so many biological factors that go into penis sizes….that I can’t begin to explain why skin color is not a good indicator. Also why can’t guys understand that its not the size its how you use it! Really, the vagina isn’t a bottomless pit, take a tape measure people: the distance from the entrance of the vagina to the cervix (bottom tip of uterus) is like 3 inches (your doctor can touch it with his/her fingers). So 6inch penis will do. Now 11 inches would tear through the uterus and probably hit the bladder. 15 inches we’re talking about hitting intestines, does this sound pleasurable? If its longer than 8 inches, then take him to your local precinct so it can be registered as a lethal weapon.

    • Hahaha…. true too. My fuck buddy is 9 inches and when he tries to go in all the way it tends to make me yelp in pain. Some angles he can go deeper than others but there are times when he has to put his hand in between us to keep from hurting me. Like hes got his hand wrapped around the base of his cock while he is fucking me so it won’t go in too deep! A 10 incher is not going to be able to get all the way in!

      I made a comment to him awhile back that I bet it would be hard for him to find women willing to have anal sex with him and he just laughed, lol, so I don’t know…

      • Yeh…cause the path of the colon is about 6 inches before it makes a sharp left turn and obviously you want to avoid that cause if you puncture the colon, we’re talking serious lifelong damage. And oral sex too!!!

  7. Whoa! Late to this party, but still. On stereotypes. I find it interesting that most of the black men I’ve been with have said to me (same exact words), “I didn’t know you were into black guys!” It always comes as such as surprise to hear this. I’m drawn to strong, good-looking men, usually tall, often funny, Alpha in the bedroom, gentleman out of the bedroom. Skin color doesn’t really factor in, it’s incidental. Of course, like everyone else on the planet, I know the stereotype. But my experience is that they’ve not all had huge cocks. One was rather small, but (lucky for me) an amazing lover. My current lover is black and has a huge cock – long, thick, beautiful. It can almost fit all the way inside of me. And it takes a lot of special play for us to get there, but man, I fucking LOOOOOVE that thing!! I’m sorry, I know it’s totally superficial and un-p.c., but I really am a fan of big cocks. I’m tall, size 12, HWP, boobs, booty, the whole thing – I can take it. I will also say this, in my experience ALL of the black men I’ve been with have without fail worshipped my booty and my curves to the point where I feel like an absolute goddess with them. White men (and I’ve been with many more of them) have rarely made me feel this way.

    @ letlovego – oooooooh, girl. I feel your pain. My marriage was sexless for several years and I can’t even begin to say how painful it was. We were never abusive toward each other, but my resentment grew and grew, and I honestly believed no man would ever want me again. It was so sad. We solved our problems in a very alternative way which definitely wouldn’t work for everyone, but it’s working for us. And we’re having sex again so that’s good. Plus I’m having sex with other people – and that’s great. Sending you lots of love.

    • LOL I get asked, by virtually every black guy I’ve met since my divorce “have you ever dated a black guy before?” I find it kind of entertaining and usually just say “yes” without giving a lot of info. Nothing wrong with liking big cocks either, haha. My current favorites are both about 8 inches and that can fit all the way in, lol. A lot of times, after I cum, the Professor will push it all the way in and hold it there for a minute, just enough to make me squirm because it is kind of hard to take it all but I can ;). I do generally feel like a lot of black men are more complimentary of my body and that is a big deal to me because after having kids I do have some insecurities.

  8. That stereotype does get annoying, even if I do perpetuate it every time I pull down my pants & have sex with someone that isn’t Black. I have never had to worry about my “package” and up until I was out of college I didn’t realize how big I was. When a girl looks at me and says “Damn, you’re gonna need a magnum.” something clicks in my head & suddenly it all makes sense. I don’t go bragging about it, because I don’t feel the need to announce it. I would much rather someone want to fuck me because they are attracted to me, instead of someone wanting to bed me because they heard about my “Richard”. The one exception to that being the extremely rare case where I really want to get it on with someone & they are swayed by my size.

    And I have been offered money by a white couple twice in my life. It’s insulting & flattering at the same time. I would feel more inclined to join them if they approached me straight up. And you’re right, there are a range or widths & lengths, so to say that ALL Black guys are hung is inaccurate. Walking into a room & realizing that everyone is looking at you because you’re some kinda unicorn is odd…. to say the least.

    • See, it’s like every well endowed black guy out there has a story about some white couple trying to pay them for sex! It’s kind of embarrassing, lol. Like, really? Come on! The attitude is so prevalent.

  9. I pretty much agree with you on everything here 🙂

    Black men and their big cocks are fetishized and objectified by people, but then again, many physical characteristics are (body parts, hair color, height, weight, etc); race in and of itself is not any worse than those other characteristics. except for the history part… I certainly objectify black men, but I objectify white men too – as long as they have a 6-pack and a big cock 🙂

    As someone who’s slept with probably about 500 men of every race and many nationalities – I’d say I agree with your estimates: Black men are on average slightly bigger than white, and Asian are slightly smaller than whites; in my experience, Indian men are the smallest (this has been such a consistent finding in my experiences, that a few years ago I decided not to hook up with Indian men unless I know they have an average to large cock).

    And yes, I like them big, but there is definitely such a thing as too big. 2 of my 3 “too big” experiences have been Black, one was white.

    and you’re totally right about some Black men of average size think they’re small because of the stereotype – I once had sex with a Black guy with a 5.5” cock who was convinced, absolutely CONVINCED, he had a micro-penis. no amount of internet searching and explaining that micro-penises are 1-2” long helped. poor thing.

    • I know. I was just on a date the other night with a guy who is black and told me he has an 8 inch cock. He said and I quote “I am not one of these guys with a BBC or anything”. The Prof has the same attitude and I’m like come on, 8 inches is PERFECT!!! 🙂 Too much bigger and it gets too big. The fuck buddy is 9 inches and has to be careful not to hurt me!

  10. Interesting-but about what I expected to hear, so that’s a good thing! But it is SO true all the stereotypes and emotions this brings up! As a white guy on the small end of average-or the big side of small, haha (5″x5.5″), just the idea of a black penis is intimidating. I have no idea why as I don’t feel any particular thoughts positive or negative toward black men in general. However, I wish I was close enough to a black man to have open honest discussions on race and other topics like this. If I was forced to label myself , I guess I would have to say I was bi. I am married but have had a few sexual encounters with men. I actually prefer small ones. 3″-4″ is my ideal. Big ones are intimidating and frankly, to me just kinda gross. And a black penis is very undesirable to me. Maybe that’s racist in itself, idk! But maybe it’s just my preference. And I will admit that I have more a fear than fetish that a big black man would drive my wife wild in bed (as would a big white man). It’s just that a black man taking my wife would feel even more insulting than just the penis size. Weird thoughts, I know. Thanks for sharing and giving a forum for discussion.

    • Jon, if you want to talk to a black man openly and honestly, you can talk to me; I’m sure we could have some interesting conversations!

    • Interesting thoughts Jon. I won’t pretend to understand why a white guy would feel any more threatened by a black man than a white one, taking his wife, but it does seem to be a common fear. Perhaps it is due to the oversexualization of black men in the media and the “once you go black you never go back” myth. In any case, since I wrote this post I have come across the smallest penis I have ever been with and he was black. I can only imagine how much the stereotype of the big, black penis must affect him.

      As for size, I still think of 5″ as within the range of normal/average. I think women are a lot more forgiving and care less about penis size than men do, usually. There are some size queens out there but I don’t think that encompasses “most” of us.

  11. Well I didnt even bother reading the whole thing. Just the start and finish. You whined about allllll that shit just to say they do have bigger dicks. Its pretty common knowlage that black guys do. And men are built for sex. Its not objectifiying to lust after someone because of their race. Nor is it Racist. Its Beautiful. Isnt it about time people start getting along? And theres no greater proof of people getting along than when they start fucking eachother.

    • Hmmm.. well, I don’t feel like it was “whining” lol, but maybe if you read the whole thing you’d see that I’m not necessarily saying that. I actually met a guy AFTER I wrote this post who had the smallest dick I’ve ever seen and he was black. SO, like I was saying in the post it’s really not a guarantee.

      I’m not comfortable with the idea of objectifying someone solely due to their race and I think that attitude involves some latent racism. Fucking someone doesn’t necessarily mean you are “getting along” with the other race, especially if you are objectifying them. If you are using someone and not treating them as a person that is actually kind of insulting, so I don’t really agree with that.

      • Your a fucking loose whore… 8 inches is perfect? Way to let all average men around the world know they’re not as good as someone bigger. Women like u make me lose faith in women as a species. You are disgusting.

      • Hmmm…its a personal preference. I don’t avoid men that are smaller or anything. I just happen to like it and am being honest about it. A lot of men have a preference for things like large breasts, that not all women have too. Fortunately there seem to be plenty of women who are into smaller cocks and men who like smaller boobs. We aren’t all the same. I’m sorry you are offended, but I don’t see any reason to try and please everyone by lying about what I like. If you read what I’m actually saying in the post, I like all kinds of sizes anyhow. That’s just what a lot of my favorites seem to be around, the 7-8 inch range.

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  13. Thanks for posting this. As a white guy who is decently hung (just over 8), and thinks he knows how to use it, I still have a fantasy of seeing my wife with a well hung, black stud type. Before my wife, I had maybe 3 solid girlfriends. All expressed some interest/fascination in black men and the “size” issue. I think what got me into it is my first gf in college was a little more experienced with sex and fairly often referenced a black man being “big” when she talked to one or saw a black guy on tv. I finally said at one point, “surprised you haven’t been with a black man before”. Her response: “I know I would like it too much”. That captured my imagination to no end. Not only was there the “size” thing, but she assumed “they” are good and bed, and moreover, she was afraid she’d like it too much and end up dating a black man, which would have been taboo to her parents (fwiw: I don’t think her parents really would have cared in the long run, just something she didn’t even want to get into).

    From that point on, I get turned on by the fact there are a lot of white women who have an interest/fantasy with black men, but won’t go for it in public. I.e. The “sneaking around” aspect is hot. My wife developed a flirting crush with an employee at our old gym. He did seem like a nice guy, but he didn’t strike me as her type (a sports nut type), except the fact that he was definitely fit the mold of black stud type. She admitted to having a “crush” on him That was a few years ago, and we’ve moved, but the idea of her sneaking around with him gets me so turned on. Additionally, it is always black men who hit on her/compliment her when she is out somewhere. Professionally or socially. I think that is something that women notice.

    The idea that she, or any white woman, likes all black men is silly, but I think it does get through that black men are more complimentary, aggressive and aren’t afraid to share the feelings with a woman. Add that to the “size” issue (which I think they are a little bigger on average, but nothing THAT big) and the athleticism, and you have a potent sexual identity.

    I do not understand the white men who want their wife/girlfriend to have sex with any black man just b/c he is black. To each his own I guess, but that is weird.

    • Thank you for your comment IRFan. That was a really interesting read. I like hearing it from your perspective because a lot of times I have a hard time figuring out what these white guys who are into that are thinking. That does help explain some things a little better.

    • Man, I don’t know how I came across this two years later, but I can totally relate! Two brunette girlfriends in a row had confessed their love of interracial porn to me, and the rest is history.

      I’m 7 and been given many compliments, including from these two interracial loving women, but over time it did start to wear on me mentally. I think the porn more than anything is not good for me to watch.

  14. Posted before I finished….

    I’m curious to how much IR porn effects black men too. It plays into so many stereotypes, but at the same time, much of it shows black men being desired by “curious” white women. I think I read where you commented about black men asking you if “this was your first time with a black man” or something to that effect. Isn’t a black man being a white woman’s “First bbc” a thing? And also, don’t black men like the idea of being with white wives. Now, that sounds like a porn stereotype or something, but i’ve heard it in “real life”. I wonder if that comes from all that cuckold porn, but in any case, it does turn me on.

    • That’s a pretty broad generalization re Black men liking the idea of being with white wives; some of us like being with any wife and if she’s not ours, oh, well – sucks to be her husband, huh? I don’t know about the effects of IR porn on other Black men but, for me, I find it boring and so highly stereotypical that it’s not worth watching – porn seriously promotes “Mandingo Syndrome” and, indeed, there have been times when white or other races of women have practically thrown the pussy at me… and all because I’m Black. I’ve had white and other races of women be “opposed” to having sex with me… and all because I’m Black; they believed that “Once you have Black, you never go back!” and a lot of them were afraid of what their peers would say. When you’re trying to get some pussy that ain’t Black, it can be rather daunting and frustrating because the Mandingo Syndrome has put this high expectation of huge dicks and extraordinary sexual performance – and that can be a motherfucker if (a) you’re not hung like a horse and (b) you’re average between the sheets. Nothing like a shitload of pressure being put on you before you even say hello to a woman!

      And, honestly, IRFan, if you’re sporting eight inches and your wife wants some Black dick, I would be really curious as to why she does; I know it ain’t saying anything bad about you (at least I hope not) but this is one Black man who is still curious about the fascination over having sex with a Black man. Lovergirl could tell you that she’s run into some Black dudes who were pretty much duds where she was concerned; not all were hung like elephants and not all had that mystical and unrelenting stamina everyone hears about.

      Now, I have heard stories from some white women who were told that Black men were the ultimate bogeymen, that we had humongous dicks and that we’d rape them in every hole they had if given the chance. I figured that these women were told this to keep them from having sex with anyone who wasn’t white but for some, instead of scaring the living daylights out of them, all those warning did was encourage them to go out and fuck every Black man they could, just to see if what they were told was true. I know a lot of white husbands believed, for some reason I’ve never understood, that having a Black man take their wife and just ravish her – and while he sat on the sidelines and watched it take place – not only made them feel impotent but it was also a huge turn on.

      I’m never going to say that any form of IR sex is bad; it’s just horribly overrated and we have porn to thank for that; there’s more Black/white porn than any other IR combinations and porn takes the ages old stereotypes and brings them to life in a huge way – and in HD, to boot.

      Me? I learned to be colorblind in this; I won’t turn down pussy of any race, creed, or color – but that’s because I love women, love to fuck them, and love sex – period. I try to gloss over the stereotype because my ability to please a woman is a lot more than the size of my dick – you still have to know how to use it on her, right?

  15. As a white girl i heard such stories that blackmen have big penises, but the information were from my friends and mostly googled, it was when i was in the student exchange program in South africa at the University of Kwazulu Natal when my curiosity overcame me, I befriended a young Black student who was not at all interested in forming a relationship with me, Nevertheless he was the cutest thing i ve ever seen. I made it a dream to seduce him until finally i got him drunk in my room, the moment i took off his pair of shorts i found out that huge nice bulge, within minutes i was screaming in delight, he stuffed his monster thing inside me, It was the best sex i ever had,Today im happily married in Latvia but I will never ever forget that experience, i always think about that boy when having sex with my husband, this helps me to reach orgasm, however i cannot say all blacks have big dicks because, my stay in South Africa was just six-months, i would have tried maybe three or four

    • I encouraged my wife to find a Black lover because reality is no white man can fulfill a white girl in the ways she so desperately needs. It’s been one year she’s been with the same man and she is totally satisfied with him. I make love to her gently, but when she wants to be truly manhandled (slapped around, powerful, deep thrusts, forced oral sex, etc.), she calls on him. Oh and because Black men rarely masturbate, they shoot more cum than white guys like me.

      • The thing that turns me on is white women cheating in their husbands with black men. The first white woman I had was married. She used to sneak around on her husband and fkaubr me in front of him. It was so hot and I think it turned him on because he didn’t get as mad as you would think he should have been. Just cried when she moved out with me. She used to yell for me to fuk me with that bbc. Since then I’ve been addicted to white women and have had another affair with a married white woman. From what I hear many white women cheat on their men with black men. One lady told me that white women get the best if both worlds. They get their white man’s money and the black man’s lust and penis.

      • I’m glad you all are having fun. I giggled at “black men rarely masturbate” though because that’s not true in the least… That’s highly individualized, and the guy I know that shoots probably the most cum, masturbates A LOT. Just sayin….

  16. Looking through the comments since a couple people commented recently. I just want to say that, 3 years later, after experiencing quite a few new men, I would say pretty much the same things I said in this article. My latest incredible in bed guy is probably average sized but he is FANTASTIC in the sack, so it really isn’t my “biggest” (hehehe) concern…

    • I’m 7.5 inches without pressing in when measuring. Am I average? I had a fat chick say it was small. Probably because it’s hard to reach her p@ssy because of her legs and I was also drunk so maybe my erection was weak. Thanks.

      P.s- I’m black too

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